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I'm a single mum of 3 daughters age 18,15 and nearly 2. I despair of my eldest daughter, she told me earlier how pathetic I was, and how all I had ever done with my life was 'pop out babies'. I am so hurt, she is horrible to me. I have depression too. Currently we live in a small 2 bedroom house so her 'bedroom' is the living room so when she is in one I live in my bedroom with the baby..... sorry this has come out so badly written but I'm pretty upset at the moment...
hi Jen,
firstly, you must be doing something right - your kids aren't in serious trouble with drugs or police, and must be being responsible about having kids themselves as otherwise that house could be a lot more crowded:)
Secondly, you are living my worst nightmare - two teenage daughters. Yes your daughter is being disrespectful, and is of an age where she could start looking to support herself. I was hell for my mother as a daughter but don't remember being very disrespectful, if I'm honest, I am more disrespectful to her now. what have I learned from this? Kids are ungreatful creatures, no matter what you do, it will be wrong.
Having a ten or more year gap is hard with girls because invaribly the terrible two's will kick in at the same time as the teenage hormones.
all I can really suggest is to find support - talk to friends/family/mother's of your daughter's friends etc. and as hazeleyes said, there should be more support along later:)
Hello jenlush
I feel really sad for you that your daughter is behaving like this. She is an adult woman now and needs to realise that she is responsible for herself. That is easy to say and hard to do. Is she working? at college? At her age she has a choice whether she lives with you and if she does, she needs to respect your house rules.
It sounds as if she is resentful of the little one and maybe it has affected her life adversely, That is no excuse but perhaps understanding where she is coming from would be a way forward.
Are you having treatment for your depression?
Sorry I am asking so many questions but having the answers to these, and the questions that Hazeleyes has asked, will help us suggest a strategy to help you 
Hi jenlush
Loads of hugs.
xx
Hi jenlush. It's obvious from your post that you're upset, so please don't apologise for anything. Is it just recently that your 18 year old is being like this toward you? She is disrespecting you, as I'm sure you know. You're suffering with depression, so she isn't helping matters either. Can I ask why she is sleeping in the living room. Can she not share with the 15 year old? I can imagine it must be really difficult for you, but you have to stand up to her. It is your house, your rules. If she doesn't like them or respect you, she is old enough to go elsewhere. How about her Dad? Is he involved in her life? If so, and you're able, could you have a word with him? Please keep posting, others will give you lots of advice and support. Take care.