Advice

ive been loking online, and all the support groups i have so far found are for those that have used them and have been really helpful, but ive known my friend since primary and know i can trust him with things like this and he would not lead me down the wrong path but he also knows me well enough to know i tend to make my desicions based on research and months of thinking and debating, which is why i guess he said he would introduce me to him so i could get all the info i needed. I'm like you i dont know my sons father medical history either. at least this way i would be getting a back ground check done prior to anything happening. 

Hi Anna, I would consider, but in a majority of cases, they would not consider me as i am a single parent, my main support group of friends and family will always be there to support me no matter what i decide to do, financially, mentally and emotionally i am ok to deal with another mouth to feed as people put it, accommodation wise, i would need to go bigger but i rent privately anyway so thats no issue for me to do. Its not something im planning to do tomorrow thankfully it would take carefull planning and a long hard think

Hi Louise, just had a read through the information that you posted, it is interesting read, but the law as it states is constantely changing. The law is still unclear on this matter as it has recently changed again to allow donor's the right to access their children now even if they where done through these clinics. I think eveyone should have the right to start a family as long as they are sure and have thought it through as there are so many children in need of fostering and adoption but the goverment make it very hard for people to do that as well. 

I would love to have more children, but like i said above i have been in the dating game since i split from M's dad and all i seem to get are men that think and act like children or are a waste of space, the latest haas managed to land himself in the national newspapers. glad i got out of that when i did, i only feel for his poor kid but he acts like a child himself still. But i now have the tick tocking of mother natures clock going on saying its time for more babies, Which is why i started looking at sperm donation.

I have how ever come accross two websites that have had good reviews and success as well as bad press on Co-pareneting, which puts two people in touch in order to create a family but nothing more, they share the responsibility of rasing of that child but as single parents just as we do now, but working as we should be with our former partners

Hi Sally W, never thought about getting legal advice on the matter yet, may need to discuss it with my lawyer when i next see her then, it had never really crossed my mind, thank you for that. 

that i would do if i knew the donor, but i think i would rather discuss with the donor what they would want before seeking legal info, get it all out in the open and ensure we are bith clear about what is going on, if they did not want anything to do with the child i would have an agreement drawn up which they could sign so it would also not cause any problems in the future. 

the more i look into the subject the more i find i am drawn to this idea of having a child that way. i have been talking to my friends friend and he has been honest with me about how he does it, and it did surprise me that there are ways of going through this without the need of doctors and IVF and how he also told me how easy it was to buy the home kits on the internet for those that were not completely comfortable with the natural way.

I definately would not rush into head first with out thinking it through, not with everything i have been through over the past two years with M's dad, but its also something im not going to rule out either. espcially now that things are settling down on my side at least, things with M's dad will never settle down. god knows how he will react of i had to drop the bomb shell on him that i was having another kid, saw at christmas how he reacted to the news i was actually dating. that was funny.

It was looking for advice to see what others thought or knew of the subject, but looking into it now it seems to be every where including the newspapers. so plenty of reading

that is true louise, 

Hi Tinkerbell2, youre right how it is when you do know the father, some of them are a waste of space. there is so many things to think about and it is not something to be decided lightly. I will definately have a legal agreement written up outlining what ever we decide now, so should the donor want to turn round and change things later it will all be done legaly. Have talked to my friends friend who is also a donor to get their point of view on the subject and he kindly volunteered to be my donor, he understands i would want legal protection for me and the child as he states now he does not want anything to do with the children he helps create but i did ask what happens futher down the line in terms of if he did want contact or if the child suddenly wanted contact with him. its things like that i am concerned about as well and would want to know where i stand in the matter as well as where the donor is happy to draw the line on the matter.