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Hi I am just curious to who could answer this within a few minutes if asked;
How many times has your child been to the A+E dept if ever and what for?
age when went if poss?
I asked these questions to someone who thinks they are ...
and couldnt answer yet i could.
Thanks
Just curious after a discusion with someone
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Pash02, for me those questions would be very easy, but then my little girl has never been to A&E for anything. For a parent who has had frequent trips not sure it would be so easy, nor for a parent with more than one child.
I have a lot more than one child and i can tell you when where and why, it is some smart bottom person who thinks they know everything that cant and i want to prove wrong hence the question.
This question is also posted somewere else and everyone can answer the question and most of them have more than one child
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Personally I dont think it proves anything Pash. Everyone is different and there are many reasons why some people may remember and some dont, things happen in life which can alter your memory of a variety of different events. I know people who probably couldnt answer you question but Im not sure that tells me anything about them.
I agree with littleangel. If people can't remember dates, ages, or whatever when their child/ren were taken to hospital, it doesn't mean they are bad/uncaring parents or anything. Like littleangel says, things happen in life which can alter your memory. Sometimes I can't remember what I did on a certain day last week, let alone years ago.
I agree with littleangel and Hazeleyes, too. I have four children and we have had numerous trips to A&E. Now I can tell you exactly why we went and what was done, but not the exact dates, only roughly how old the children were.
I do not consider myself a bad parent.
"" Now I can tell you exactly why we went and what was done, but not the exact dates, only roughly how old the children were.""
That is all i am after
i am not calling anyone a bad parent
Thanks anyway
Hi Pash02, it sounds as though you were looking for a certain response to your question, however as has previously been stated by others we are all different. I don't think I could tell you the answers to your questions and I only have one child.
Hi
if you kids are clean, well fed and cared for does it matter? Ive had many a trip to A&E with my 4 normally the same 2 of 4 accident prone lil ones
I could list reasons why and rough ages but no doubt I would miss a few out.
a few examples fall down stairs, opened calpol bottle, fell off bike, fell in bath, fell at school - all very standard things kids do the 2 visits i could give dates and times for were Meningitus my daughter had bacterial and 2 yrs later my son had viral.
HM
As long as they are better now, does it really matter? my daughter has been hospital about 8 times in the past 9 months because of her health problems, I don't know dates etc but i guess that's why the hospitals keep records
Tinkerbell2 you just hit the nail on the head x Think us parents have enough to worry about x
Ok it was just something i though of as odd that a SW who thinks they know everything yet know jack-pooh doesnt even know when their children have been to A+E.
so i thought i would just ask on here and another forum and out of about 60 replies they all knew when and where etc. their children went to A+E
Thanks for all the replies every one
Please don't use personal arguments like this against the social worker. Really, if their child/ren have or have not been to A&E has nothing to do with their work or actions they're taking.
Please work with them. However much it goes against everything you're feeling, you need to be calm and focusing on your children.
Other people's children have nothing to do with your case.
Working with them calmly will hopefully get them on side.
And this is only from what I have picked up over years on about three forums, and from chats with a friend of mine who is a social worker and works with Childline.
She actually pulled me up with issues following a general chat about things going on when I was married. Although the actions were being taken by the father, as the mother had anything happened, it would have been the mother that would have been charged...
I know this doesn't help. But reading your other thread too, however much you dislike the social work, or disagree, being calm is the only way they might start listening.
More than anything, this all sounds so awful for you (major understatement, I know), and I do hope you get somewhere very quickly to have your children with you.
sparklinglime Thank you
Are you doing some sort of survey? Just curious