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my eldest son who is 20 has just told me that his little brother 13 has asked him to buy him and his mates booze, im just not sure what to do
do i
let him know i know and stop it happening straight away (my 1st thought)
let it happen knowing they are only going to have a small amount of alcohol anway
l dont want to ruin the confidence he has in telling his brother things
i have no experience of these things his brother was very sensible
what would you all do?
older brother wasnt going to he said he would when he asked him but had no intention of actually doing it.
i have had a chat and pointed that out,also that it wouldnt just be my son in trouble it would also be all of his mates as i would have to let their parents know,also the dangers of being drunk and out and about, The reason he gave for wanting to was just a laugh, bravado showing off,
he did say they werent going to do it anyway not sure if i believe that or not. im just a bit worried now that at least he did tell his brother and now he may not confide in him anymore and go ahead and do things without anyone knowing.
its one of those where i dont want to push too far and cause him to really rebel when perhaps he is just experimenting (i still feel he is too young)
i will be keeping an extra close eye on him from now on though
Hi three great kids
Sounds to me as if you have handled it very well. Your boy is only 13 and it is good for him to see that your eldest is now a young adult and is maintaining Mum's boundaries. An older brother can be a real asset when dealing with a younger one. When my youngest was at his very worst (15) it was a big bust up with all three of us, and youngest seeing that what I was saying was not just the view of boring old Mum but that a 20 year old agreed with me 
I'm sure he will still confide in his brother. Sometimes I feel my lot will tell big brother as they know he will let me know what's going on...
I do hope things are all ok though.
I ask all the questions you can. Why he wants it in the first place. It's just a sad fact of todays society that children are being exposed to such things at such an early age.
I hope that my oldest (who's 20) would refuse (my youngest is 13). If it were me, I'd be having a chat about youngest as to why he wanted it. I'd also point out his big brother could get into trouble.
I just feel that it is one thing if they're having a tase of something at home with a meal, but not an evening out with mates...