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Went for a back to work interview with my bos and he said i had 3 close together absences and i was being monitored and if i take anymore time off before march i will be formally disciplined.
I was so shocked i have had 3 days off last week hes not counting my days off one day begining of october and one day in september due to dd then. I know its what they have to do its company policy but im also really scared by it if dd gets ill dont know what i will do at this time of year its possible she will.
Like i say i know they cant have me taking regular time off (not that i feel its been very exessive) but still shoked by it, thinking i should quit and go back on benefits feel like because im a single parent im being punished.
I worked nights for a supermarket when I was married, and I had one period of sickness that lasted 4 days. I received a back to work interview and was threatened with disciplinary action if I missed more days within a stated period of time.
I was very upset at the time, as I was working six nights a week to cover a colleague who was off after surgery. No other member of staff offered to help. The way the interview was handled was really awful and not warranted at all.
Sending loads of hugs your way.
I can only imagine that things are more inflexible with employers, what ever the job, since then. Treat everyone bad so as not to discrimanage against those who are malingerers, maybe. Not the right attitude.
Sorry for saying single parents and not everyone just another colleauge had the same and was offered to be laid off.
Are you a member of a union?
Yes but in the 5 months we have all worked their we have yet to meet them even though we have asked!!! (shop only opened in july)
You may be interested to know that as a parent (single or not) you now have a legal right to ask for flexible working arrangements
I am already doing that in term time although it was a fight to get it for that, when schools break up i have to be more felixible with the times.
Theres only me and his parents to look after her if dd gets ill, they live a fair distance and it wouldnt be fair on here if she was ill to travel there its a 2 bus journey and they cant always pick her up. I have no family around me to help.
Hi again, lisa 1980
Yes life is difficult when there are children in the frame: how can we predict when they might be ill or need us in other ways.
The union may not have been down to meet you but you can still make contact with them, how about a letter saying you are concerned that this has happened and you would like it placed on record and you wonder if they have any advice for you?
Hello lisa1980
What a shock for you! You say that you feel like you are being punished for being a single parent but I would like to put it to you that a partnered parent may also experience the same thing, if they are the child's main carer.....which you may still have been anyway.
Are you a member of a union? If not then find out if there is one there and you could consider joining it!
You may be interested to know that as a parent (single or not) you now have a legal right to ask for flexible working arrangements, click here to see details. I am not suggesting you march in there but have a think about what your hours are now and whether the company could realistically give you some flexibility. It may also be worth having a think about whether there is anyone else who could help you out if your daughter is ill or has an appointment and also if you DO need time off, how you can prove what it is for (a copy of an appointment letter, a doctor's note?)
The same thing happened to a friend of mine and she was hauled up to the Regional Office but she could account for the time with genuine reasons so it was all Ok in the end.