benefits

I would suggest maybe, that you drop One Space's 1-2-1 money advisors a line. It is all confidential, and they will be able to answer your questions.  This is the link  here.  As it is the weekend, it might take a few days for them to get back to you. In the meantime, please keep posting, as others will be along at some point.

Erm... this might seem really daft of me... and maybe me poking my nose in where it's not wanted... but ermmm.. legally you couldn't have had a serious relationship with this bloke for more than two years.

You're a single mum with a kid of I don't know - if you're 30 they're under fifteen and soon to be heading into teenage years (at least:)

He's SEVENTEEN.

erm. I'm sorry. maybe this is one of those posts that get removed.

but I'm really struggling from being rude.

put it another way, My mum married for the first time when I was twelve to a guy ... ooh she was late 30's and he was mid - late 20's. It lasted 3 months. (ok so this guy was turkish n prolly just wanting a passport).

she then married again a couple years later, this guy, younger, early 20's. we're now reaching heavy domain that he was closer to my age than hers.

This marriage lasted longer. 2-3 years.

I have nothing against a) Having a social life as a single mum or b)seeing younger men.

But you're inviting him into your home to live with you. This cannot be what you ultimately want for yourself or your child.

I wouldn't bother worrying about benefits - I think he needs to make his own way in the world get a job and pay rent or add his name to the houseing list. unless you plan on treating him as if he is an adopted child.

Is he going to pay you rent?#agh. I'm sorry. I've said more than enough, and yet not enough :)

Good luck however it goes.

Hi mryoungs30

Welcome! Hazeleyes has given you the link to our specialist 1-2-1 Money service, make sure you include full details when you email them such as the age of your child and the fact that your partner is at college.

As well as the money side of things, it is worth giving serious consideration to how things might change if he moves in and if you think he is ready to take a full parental role as your equal in the household.

Anyway good luck and let us know how you get on with the money side of things.

Hello...a have a thing like.... I gave a birth for wonderful girl 7th of July... should i recive any money for childbirth?