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My daughter is 16. For the last 2 years shes had this lovely boy chasing her, breaking his heart over her, he has spoken to me about how much he loves her. She said she loved him as a friend but thats all.
Now this boy has moved on and gotten himself a girlfriend and my teen is breaking her heart crying over it and wants him to go out with her, but he wont now. How do i deal with this? Ive tried saying, I don't think you really love him, you had your chance and its only cos he doesn't want you any more that you want him now. But of course that didnt help.
She is really really crying up there, breaking her heart and I don't know how to help her.
I've GOT a degree in pschology and still canny understand kids LOL!!! Tha said, she seems to be over it now xx
Hi alexandraelizabeth! Nice to see you back again! Glad to hear that your daugther is over it. How long did it take? Did it happen naturally or did she meet someone else?
Bless her, it is maybe not that she is in love with him but that she feels let down with him moving on, as she thought he would always be there.
You can't reason with a teen about heartbreak, it is a waste of breath BUT I would say that these things are often over quite quickly, despite the drama that accompanies them. That is not to belittle the way your daughter is feeling, just to say that we as adults think things must truly be disastrous if our teen is THAT emotional. My mum said that even when I was at uni, I would ring up and say how unhappy I was about something and phone two days later (in the olden days before mobiles) and she would have been worried sick about how unhappy I was and I had been perfectly Ok from half an hour after the first phone call.....and so I think part of the reason for that excess of emotion for teens is a cure in itself: does that make sense?
Don't be too logical with her, just sympathise and be on hand to make a hot chocolate or to let her be like a little girl again. You know what? Sometimes I think we parents do not "just" need to be teachers, nurses, cooks and taxi drivers.....we also need to be psychologists!