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I am ruddy livid. C is now 10, and he has received 4 birthday cards in all. Normally he gets 10 euros, whoopee doo, considering I don't get any other money from him. Today, 2 days late, C receives a card, signed 'your Dad'. Nothing else in it, not even the 10 measly euros During the summer hols, I had contact with him, and he asked me if C was his, as 'you were sleeping with a German and a Swedish' If he thought for a moment C wasn't his, why would he send a card signed your Dad (jerk)
So, it arrived today, and I'm having hot flushes, mood swings, etc. I have posted a note through his mother's door addressed to him. A long story, but I changed my house number in the holidays, as he kept telling me I was blocking him from speaking to C (he wanted to ring at 10.30/11.00pm on a Friday evening) I gave him a time of 7/8.30, he phoned once, it was engaged, so I got a text about that, then nothing the following week. When I asked him why, his response was, 'well, I tried the week before, it was busy, and I am very busy at work'. Wanted C's mobile, which I refused to give him, so he kept saying I was blocking him, so I did, by changing the number!!!
Not even sure why I'm posting this, just want to get it all down I guess. Don't care whether any one thinks I've done wrong by putting a note through his Mother's door, (she has nothing to do with C anyway) but I sure as hell felt better putting pen to paper and putting it through her box. Of course, being the doting mother that she is (not), she's bound to ring her darling son, (hopefully) He's so thick skinned anyway, he probably won't bat an eyelid, but it made me feel a bit better 
Hi hazeleyes, it is so infuriating isn't it, the random and sporadic contact.
Have you had any response to the letter?
Hello. No response whatsoever, not unexpected really. He is such a p**t. The card has remained on the kitchen table, C's choice, as he didn't want to put it up on display. As far as I'm aware, T visits his mother October or Jan time. He has already said that he will see C. Well, now he's sent several texts about whether he's the father etc, I shall make it extremely hard for him by insisting he gets a DNA before anything is decided with contact. I shall play his game, and I know he'll never go for the DNA. I loathe this man so much
Hi hazeleyes all sounds rather irritating to put it mildly, what would his mother normally do, read him the letter, keep it until he visits, or send it forward? not that i suppose it would make much difference, just wondered if he would have had a chance to know that you have written him yet.
Hi Sally. Ooohhh, his mother would have been straight on the phone to her 'little boy'. I was rather hoping she'd turn up on my doorstep!!! I'm guessing he hasn't texted me, as I did say that I'm blocking him completely, so that meant house number and mobile. I did change the house number, and had a new sim card ready, but as I've not heard, then I think I'll keep the mobile number, (too much hassle, if don't need to really)
Hi hazeleyes, how are you about all of this today? Did C open his card? Has he mentioned anything?
Do you feel better for 'getting it all out', hazeleyes? Sometimes there's nothing like a good rant (especially to a receptive audience!)
It sounds as though you've taken the action you felt necessary.
How does C feel about the sporadic/lack of contact with his father (I didn't dare put dad!)?