Well, I've had a difficult time with men. My son's father was a liar and a cheat which I found out when pregnant. He went abroad soon after and we have v little contact. My son has not been easy behaviourwise but is nearly 4 now and seems to be maturing finally! I am 8 weeks pregnant after taking the morning after pill! The dad who I have known for 3 years has very clearly stated that if I have the baby he won't have anything to do with either of us! I hate thee idea of a termination but am very stressed about bringing up two Kidd on my own! My family are disappointed in me and I feel lonely and tired! Add to that absolute chronic morning sickness life feels very hard at the moment. I have no idea what to do but have counselling later today, I am hoping it will help. I suppose I'm hoping to hear from anyone in a similar situation. Jazzy xx
Hi again Jazzy
Glad you started this thread. No wonder you feel so rubbish with all the tiredness and the morning sickness, eurgh that is the worst. Fingers crossed that it will pass in three or four weeks, in the meanime do whatever might ease it, whether that is sipping lemonade, eating plain biscuits or getting fresh air/rest.
You CAN do it, but it is a question of what you want. I am sorry to hear that you family have not been supportive. I remember when I found I was pregnant with my youngest, my marriage was in real trouble, I told my parents about the baby and their attitude was oh no, that's all you need. I was cross that they weren't pleased and said Ok then I will have a termination. They hated this idea more so were "suddenly" supportive of the pregnancy. Just sharing that with you....
Good luck with the counselling today, who are you seeing?
Hi
Yes, you will cope, and I'm sure you will enjoy all the joy (and frustrations) children can bring. It seems awful now, and it's hard enough with support when you're pregnant.
I'm sorry your family isn't being helpful, buttt.... there is a bit of time for them to hopefully come around to things. I'm sure they're shocked, upset and worried about you.
Please take care.
Hiya,
You can do it, I know you can. I am a single dad to 4 children aging from 1 to 8 and for a long time, everyday I wondered how I was going to cope. Your family will come round and support you, they are just surprised at how things have turned, as are you, I know. I can't really advise on the morning sickness as this is clearly something I have never had to worry about.
Just remember, it's your body and you need to do what is right for you. It's understandable that you should have doubts, but don't be controlled by fearing what might happen.
Hope you stay with us.
Hi Jazzy
I have nearly 5 year old and 18 month old its hard at first but they really look after each other now !
Take care, take it easy !
Hi Jazzy
Regardless of what others think, this is all about you. Whether you can cope, or whether you want to cope.
To be honest with you, when I found out I was pregnant again with my daughters father, I was thrilled, however I wasn't in a good space emotionally or financially and for me it was best to terminate. Every now and again I think to myself 'wouldn't it have been nice' or 'they would be ??? old now' but I can honestly say that I did the right thing for me at the time.
I found that the answer came to me when I actually went to the doctor and confronted the issue. When they asked outright 'do you want to keep it' the answer came to me instantly, that No actually I didn't.
Its never an easy choice, especially with hormones flying all over the place. Whatever you decide to do, it will be the right choice, you have to make it so.
How did the counselling go? Are you coming to any conclusions? Has it helped you to see things a little more clearly?
I wish I knew the answer Anna. Some days I think to myself you can do this but after raising my son to age 4 by myself with no help apart from mum and Sis I know just how hard it is. My so. Has v challenging behaviour so it wouldn't be easy. I'm 39 and know that if I terminate there won't be another chance to have a baby. Cam I take away my sons chance to have a bro or Sis?? I just don't know and the indecision is so hard especially when lost a to. Of weight as can't eat. Termination booked for Saturday but can cancel at any time and honestly don't think I can go through with it! Aggggghhh!!!!
Hi Jazzy
Will you get another chance on Saturday to talk things over with a counsellor? Whatever you decide, it might also be worth having a few sessions with someone afterwards, it is a major step either way and would be helpful to explore your feelings
Hello Jazzy. It is an incredibly hard decision to make, and my heart goes out to you. If you can, try not to look at it from your son's point of view regarding sister or brother etc. Don't make the decision based on pressure from the 'father' or your family either. As Anna has said, it has to be the right thing for you. Had I gone through with my first pregnancy, my child would be in his/her 20's now, and again like Anna, I often think about what they'd be like. I was in an abusive relationship, and had lots of pressure from family too.
Take care.
Just to show the other side: I was 21 and had just enrolled in evening school to prepare to go back to university when I found I was pregnant with No1 son despite being on the pill. The father wanted an abortion. For me there was really no decision to make, I ditched the evening course, and although I can't say it was easy, my son was and still is the best thing ever.
But then I had a very supportive family...
Hi Jazzy
To be honest with you, you might not know until you walk to the clinic on Saturday morning. If you can't walk through the door, then you have the answer to your question - Yes I can (and will) cope with 2 children on my own.
If you walk through the clinic door, you will then have the answer of something like, I am making this choice for my best interests and my sons.
For me it was the best decision, in a way it was a benchmark, I have now turned my life around completely and am happy and content with work, my daughter, home and social life. So it was good for me. If I had continued with pregnancy, I would be many years behind and probably would have had a far harder struggle that I would probably still be in now.
On the other hand, like you say, my daughter would have had a sibling, ermmm, can't think of any more plusses now.
Only you can judge what you and your family need. Keep talking on here and maybe others can share their experiences to help you find your solutions.
Thinking of you. 
It's so hard make such a life changing decision. Bringing up my son has been so amazing but so hard on my own and the thought of nappies and sleepless nights on my own scare me. However, a termination is so final and at 39 is definitely my last chance. Financially will be so hard as childcare has crippled me these last 4 years! I've just started to get my career off the ground and feel like I'm achieving something. Maybe need to go to clinic to know cos the uncertainty is torturing me!
I was 40 when I fell pregnant with my son now nearly 9, so 39 sooooooo isn't your last chance. Best of luck with what you and only you decide. We're all here for you no matter what. xx
Perhaps talking to someone in the clinic would be an idea, as the advice they can give, I'm sure, would be helpful.
Totally nothing to do with all this, but: why do people fall pregnant? 
Jazzy, can the contact offer you some further counselling/help with decision making??
Hi Jazzy,
this is a great site and everyone is really helpful!
From my own experience I would say that people can cope with a lot more than they think. A lot of friends have said to me they couldn't do what I am doing, but I don't really think about it, I just get on with it - I have four children altogether; the first one is 22 now, and I have brought them up by myself most of the time (very long story, but it shows it can be done!).
It is sad that you say your family are disappointed in you - have they actually told you that? And have you in turn told them how you feel about that? Have you got any friends who will be there for you, even if it's just providing a cup of tea and a shoulder to cry on?
It is natural that you feel unsure of what to do next, and when several things happen at once it is always more difficult, plus you have all the hormones flying around and are feeling unwell.
There are lots of really brilliant people on here and they'll give you excellent advice!