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Hi everyone,
Firstly im new to this so bare with me!! Iv been divorced for 5 years now and have two daughters.They see their father alternate weekends over night.The father lives with his new gf and two young sons.Recently my 10 year old has enlightened me to some comments that have been made to her by the girlfriend...bare in mind my daughter is 10...she has been called "bi sexual" and "m***e j***e" just naming two.This disgusted me and i contatacted the father to express my alarm on such language being spoken to my child.He laughed it off and did not understand why i has said i dont feel the girls should visit until im assured nothing is going on and this wont happen again.
He said he would stop the money (£50) Week he gives me..as iv explained ita not about money ita about mu childs welfare.I really dont know where to go from here in as leagal or child warefare rights.
Hi Claire. Welcome along. You could e.mail our legal expert here
It's not right that these things are being said to a 10 year old. Your ex simply cannot stop the money either. Does he pay through CSA?
Its heart breaking.
I do not know which avenue to take..solicitor ..mediation or what really.all i know is if i spoke to a child in the street that way i would be arrested.
xx
HI,
No he pays me currently direct.im considering csa ..but unsure i would benefit.he is employed full time and with a good wage xx
Hello claire and welcome along to One Space, you will find us a friendly bunch on here so hope your initiation into writing on forums will be a good one.
I just wanted to mention that if you are using your actual name you may want to change it as it is recommended that you use a fictitious name to protect your identity.
How did your daughter feel about these comments that are being made? would she talk to her dad about it?
It is recommended that people try to sort things amicably first before involving the help of any legal agency or CSA. You could issue a warning that the girls being subjected to these kind of comments won't be tolerated and that if it happens again then you will be looking to change the contact arrangements.
At least then you have given them the opportunity to behave towards the girls appropriately. As for legal advice you can contact our Legal Expert who maybe able to answer any legal/rights questions you may have.
You can also contact our CSA Expert who can answer any questons you may have about going down the CSA route.
Hopefully once you have sought some information from either of these sources you can be clearer about what your next steps will be.
Hi Claire
There are some great experts on here who will guide you but it sounds like hes blackmailing you into sending the children - if he pays through csa he cant stop the payment for that reason (as im sure you know)
The comments are disgusting (my daughter was called a fat s**g by my exs 'new' wife)
Whats wrong with these people?
HM x