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Here goes EX and the children left in Dec ’11 and have not seen the boys ) 14, 16 and 17)since May ’11 and they say they do not want to anything to do with me!!
My lilttle girl (6 )and the 14 year old are in foster care since May this year.
the eldest (17)since about mid-October he suddenly stopped all contact and will not answer his phone, until then we were getting on fine and building bridges but this is the second time now he has turned the last time was around August when she found out he was stopping at mine.
My Princess I was seeing in a contact centre but that suddenly stopped for no reason or my brief and the judge can’t see one!
Now what I want to know is what I do for Christmas presents as I was just going to get my little girl but what about the boys?
The EX will NOT even speak to me
Thanks
No rows with the 17 year old he was fine when he left i phoned him the next day and no comment, i guess she found out he had stay with me for two nights and she didnt like it again.
as for the contact i have always said if S gets upset contact stops but everyone feels the SS are using this because i have gave them so many headaches and complained about several things and the only way thes people can get at me is through S
The contact review notes are 10/10 for me and very glowing thats why the judge is not a happy bunny but i am too ill with depresion to fight at the moment so i am leaving everything to my solicitor and barrister.
as for xmas it has been sugested that i buy small items and cards date them and put them away until the time every thing is "normal" and also open bank accounts for the children.
I do send the eldest texts as he wont answer his phone telling him i love him and he knows i am here when he needs me.
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Hi Pash02
I do agree with hazeleyes, anything that is laid down by the court can be enforced by the court so do chase up your solicitor. I know it is hard when you are depressed but just a chaser letter or phone call?
However frustrating with your children it is good to keep the communication going from your own side...and I would indeed send them something for Christmas, it need not be much but at least you will know you have done it and they will know you have done.
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Not to sure what is going on with court but i will find out.
One thing i will not do is get my little girl upset. the SS can go and duck
Thanks again
Lies, intimidation, violence and totally biased opinions.
This is xxxx children service’s and the
way some of their Social workers work!
I am prepared to state the above in a court of Law.
Hi Pash. Sorry to hear you're still going through this. If the judge and solicitor cannot see the reason for contact being stopped, surely they can re-enforce it again? I always assumed, once the judge had set something up, it couldn't/shouldn't be stopped unless there was a serious reason.
As for the presents, I would still send for all the children. The ones in care will be easier to send to I imagine, but the others, I'm sure you could perhaps post them? The 17 has stopped all contact with you again? I guess he is old enough to make his own mind up, but also still young enough to be influenced by his mother? Saying that though, he did live with you for a while, so did you have a row or anything, to trigger him moving out again? Teenagers are and can be hard work. If you can, keep up the communication, and hopefully, things will be resolved again soon.