Contact

My ex is in New Zealand. I have moved home to the UK with my son....as my son wanted to come back home. My ex was abusive to me and to my son. I am on the Freedom Programme and my son will be having counselling.

I have asked my ex to agree a care plan for our son, but he refuses to do anything about it, ignorning all my EMails. He has spoken to my son on the phone, but now my son says he doesn't want to speak to his father until he has a care plan. My son has even written to his father to explain that. However, my ex is trying to force telephone contact. He has now got his mother to send our son a mobile phone so that he can contact him directly.

I have asked my son what he wants to do. He has told me his still does not want to speak to his father until he has a care plan. I am due to go into hospital shortly, and my son is concerned that if anything happens to me he will be forced to go and live with his father or grandparents. He does not want this to happen.

My son is eleven, and is gifted. He has asked me to write a will and to make a care plan and come to an agreement with his father about his future care. However, his father will not respond at all to any requests. He is trying to enforce contact.

My ex is coming over at christmas and my son and myself are afraid that he will come into the house. He has never been physically violent, but he has been extremely abusive to us both.

I feel vulnerable because I am not eligible for any benefits due to being out of the country for over 3 years. So I am financially dependant on the maintenance payments my ex sends me. I want to work from home, however, this will take a bit of time to set up...and I have to sort out some health problems first. I cannot afford to offend my ex husband. However, I respect my son's wishes in not wanting contact over the phone.

At the moment, I am not sure what to do. My ex's parents are contacting my son, but do not contact me. They have not responded to any EMails I have sent to them explaining why my son and myself have had to return to the U.K. Instead, they are insisting that my son telephones his father.

I guess my main concern is that I have no care plan for my son, and also I am concerned that my ex will come back to our home and be abusive. Happy days!