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I took peoples advice & gave my 5 month old & her father more Alone time on his visits- I admit I had a video recorder (secret) set up (needed peace of mind) only to find that when I watched the footage back there is a clip of him not supporting her while sitting so she falls fro reseda & he catches her by her throat, then he sits her back up (again not supporting) and she falls sharply backwards snacking her tiny head on the hard floor then then proceeds to lay her on her back again with no head support.... He never even told me this happened, fair enough kids hurt themselves but considering she's in poor health including throat problems & im her PG u would think he would mention it incase she needed to be looked at (she hit her head pretty hard) :(
If he's doing it intentionally if so I would take action on it. Is there anyone to whom you can show the video footage? Is there a solicitor or social worker invloved hun. Under no circustances would I allow her to be left with him again.
Hugs
Hi Tinkerbell2
That sounds very worrying indeed and if it was my child I would decide not to leave him alone with her again while she is so tiny. Personally I think you need legal advice again (not as to what to do, but to how admissible your video evidence would be and how to use it) so do run that bit past our Legal Expert.
Obviously, your daughter's safety is Number One priority and that's what's important here. Poor you, you must have been horrified. Babies do fall over from time to time but if you know they are likely to wobble, then the sensible thing to do would be to hold them, put them in a baby chair or at the very least surround them with soft pillows and cushions.
Don't have social worker but going to show healthworker video (contact centre won't accept us for his visits) in the video he don't even care that she's hurt, I'm in total shock :O
Yes, I am not surprised......Let us know what the healthworker says but do get some legal advice as well, as I have suggested
Aw hun, that sounds awful. It is so painful to see footage like that of you little baby.
Do you think he deliberately put her in danger or do you think he just doesnt have a clue? I mean do you think he would benefit from you just showing him how to properly support her head etc.? If you think he is deliberately putting her in harms way you should show the footage to a solicitor. Either way, I think you should keep him supervised whilst he has your daughter until he properly knows how to handle a baby.
Good luck and well done you for recording him.
I've been showing him what to do for 6 months- do I keep shoeing him for the nxt 10 years? He should know by now there's no excuse! I can't mother him & her, hrs her father it's time he listened x
*she falls frontwards I ment- sorry