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So, iv'e met someone and hes keen, He's decent from what i can tell and we get on well.
I feel nervous as i dont want to let myself down by moving too fast maybe, or by not being easy going enough.
Any advice would be handy - on making things work well to my advantage so that i'm able to have fun, have a laugh but at the same time being careful and not making silly muistakes
Any advice would be great. (he's more experinced than me as he's older)
thanks all
Hi pink lilly
You can see my top tips on this thread dating.....help!
Can I just say just because he is older, does not mean he is more experienced than you. You know yourself better than anyone. We are all different and every relationship is different. If you don't like something or if you don't feel comfortable about something, listen to your own self first, not what someone else tells you.
Use a mantra, "I trust and approve of myself" Repeat this over and over again. You will find that if somethings not right for you. You will be able to deal with it.
Boundaries - know what your boundaries are, can he stay over, are you prepared to cook for him, can he meet your little one, will you let him persuade you to have 'just one more'. As long as you know exactly what you are ok with, you will be fine.
So go out there and enjoy him, oh and let us know how it goes! 
Hi both,
we're meeting up sarturday so ill let you know how it goes :)
i know what my boundaries are, but im also up for some fun and i hope it goes well.
Good luck, pink lilly, you have grown so much in confidence and knowledge over the last year or two so trust yourself and enjoy! Anna and sparkling have given you some great tips and guidance and the key word is boundaries. Remember to focus not just on how you think it is going for him, but also how it is for YOU.
I've no idea what to suggest.
i met someone in December - on a dating site that my Mother-in-Law made me join.
We get on really well and do have a good laugh. I can relax with him, although sometimes I feel I get too comfortable, and he'll say something that makes me pull right back and shut down! Not his fault, just how I've become.
Relax, enjoy it and see what happens. If you don't fancy going somewhere he does, then say it. As my friend says to me, he doesn't have a crystal ball... So do talk to him about what you would like to do too.
Best wishes.