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Daughter's father not on the birth certificate: can he see her

emilia2009

My daughter is 2 years old , her father see her once per month but now he start be very nasty to me so I want to cut his visit. Can I do this?

 

He is not on the birth certyficate

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 6:42pm
hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi emilia2009. It's not nice or acceptable that your ex is being nasty to you. He obviously has a relationship with your daughter, as he sees her. More to the point, she has a relationship with him. Are you wanting to cut his visits because of his nastiness to you?

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 6:46pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

You can indeed cut down the contact time but at the end of the day he can if he wishes, take you to court to get an agreed amount of time with his daughter. What do mean when you say he is nasty to you? Can you explain a bit more?

One option could be to use a contact centre, a neutral place where he can see her, and you do not have to see him yourself. Do you think this could be an option?

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 6:46pm

emilia2009

hi

 

He is not paying for her. HE call me names cos i asked him to pay £150 per month .

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 6:50pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Ok so you need to organise something through the Child Support Agency (click to see)

Unfortunately paying child support and seeing the child are two completely different things in law though.

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 6:53pm

emilia2009

soeven he is not paying can he see her?

 

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 7:20pm

hazeleyes
DoppleMe

It doesn't seem right does it, but like Louise has said, they are two different things

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 7:38pm

sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Hi emillia

Yes, even without paying maintenance he can see her.  So long as your daughter is safe, that is really the important thing.

A parent can be quite nasty and unreasonable with the other parent yet still the child/ren have a brilliant time with that parent...

If you take the matter to the child support agency they can deal with the matter of maintenance, which will be 15% of his income.

If he is being mean to you, can a family member of friend be there when you drop off your daughter? 

Posted on: August 26, 2011 - 10:57pm