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Kiera - I know this sounds mad, but can you do another Christmas dinner, for just you and the children? It's horrid when something like that happens...
It's been a quiet day here. I'm still now sleeping, so I've had a granny nap. While I may not be a granny, they sound good.
I popped in to work for an hour to send some copy invoices to one of our sub-contractors... So not really work.
Morning all,
Well I'm back at work. Stayed an extra night with my parents last night so had to get up at 5 in order to drive home before heading off to work but got another evening with my girls so it was worth it.
A is much better Louise, I think she reacts to the new travel sick pill I gave her as it happened the last time we came up to my parents. I'll go back to the usual one I buy I think.
Got a restfull few days ahead, as the girls will stay with my parents until the new year, with a couple of fun bits thrown in and work of course!
Looby its great to hear you're doing so well. I still have to make an effort to not 'mope' about when the girls are away but on the whole I enjoy the time on my own now.
Hello all,
It sounds as though everyone is managing the 'hinterlands' between Christmas the best they can (sorry to hear things have been stressful for you, kiera).
My Christmas day was a very social affair. Because A's birthday falls the day before & her dad and I split up when she was very little, I'm now used to having her for alternate Christmas dinners. So I had herself for Christmas morning this year (the best bit in my opinion - I love seeing her unwrap presents!) then when she got picked up by her dad I went over to the house of some of my oldest friends. We had mushroom wellington with roast veg and my dessert was very well recieved. It all got a bit blurry around 11pm, so I retired to bed and stayed there until midday yesterday 
A came back yesterday tea time and we lay on the sofa eating 'rubbish' with the TV on until it was her bed time. THEN I watched 'Death Comes to Pemberley', Louise. Like I'd miss it (for those who don't know, I adore Matthew Goode who is one of the actors in it) 
Whatever you're doing today, be careful should you have to go out there in the gales x
A quick hello to those in the Chat section 
Sparkling, I have to admit that a granny nap is a very appealing option, I nodded off this afternoon and woke up to find a cold cup of tea beside me. I had been doing some of my new editing work and got to a very hard bit. I will have another go tomorrow (not at the cold tea though)
Mary I knew that programme would appeal to you, heh heh.
PQ, glad A is Ok, yes good idea to switch tablets. My friend uses the rather embarrassingly-named Joy Rides (imagine going into the chemist to ask for them!) Enjoy your quiet days.
Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow, I will see you all on Sunday!
oh man this is getting ridiculous. 3yo being a little toad keeping the whole house awake with his joyful shouting and absolute refusal to JUST STOP and I'm feeling ridiculously low. Post festive slump I guess. Want all the decs gone and life to go back to some kind of normality.
Feel really lonely tonight.
How is everyone this evening?
Hi just_immi. I remember evenings like that! Hope he settles soon. Loneliness is a hard one to cope with. I try really hard not to mope but its tough sometimes. I've learnt for me I'm better off going to bed with a book and some good music. If I watch tv I often can't find anything I want to watch which just adds to my frustration.
Work was busy. Stayed late to get everything done so I'm now feeling really tired. Have had a long soak, made myself an omelet and I'm now sitting in bed listening to lilly allen on Spotify with a large baileys. Looking forward to a lie in tomorrow.
Oh that sounds lovely PQ. I agree, retreating to the bedroom is lovely sometimes. C has stopped shouting and gone to sleep now so I may just do that. Never watch TV any more anyway. I hope you enjoy your lie in :)
I often retreat to my room. And my lot are a lot older (my youngest will be 15 in February), and are so noisy at times. And when my daughter's best friend calls, well, talk about screaming!!! I have to tell her off.
I think it is odd after Christmas day. I try to hold on to the 12 days of Christmas thing, but seem to fail.
Glad the weather is calmer, and I hope everyone is ok.
I'm glad the weather is calmer too, sparkling. It has sounded quite scary here at times over the past couple of days.
I referred to the time between Christmas & New Year previously as the hinterlands. It really is the oddest time - nothing is 'normal' & everyone is tired as a result of losing their usual routine. I hope things quietened down at your house before too long, Immi. And on the plus side, it sounded like gleeful shouting (not much comfort to you, I know x)
I am also a fan of retreating to my 'lair' (which could be my bed with a book or the bath with a glass of wine). A is getting more respectful of my space as she gets older, which is great to experience and I try to return the favour; though this proves difficult on school days when I am still having to wake her up!
We are having a laid back morning here. I felt much better for 'getting on & doing' at work yesterday, so planning a quick trip to the supermarket and doing some cooking later on today. Hope everyone has a good Saturday - will see you all later.
M x
I got up to go to the gym.
It was closed!!!
I hope I have the same enthusiasm on Monday.
Boo for the gym being closed, sparkling. You WILL be on the doorstep on Monday 
Oh immi, I know those evenings. Ignoring is very hard and yet it's a good policy to adopt. If he persists on a regular basis (Perish the thought) then I suggest a wall chart with stars and he can win a star for "going to bed and being quiet"
PQ hope your weekend has gone well.
Mary I also love retreating to my room. Although when they are teenagers they sometimes retreat to theirs and then we can reclaim the lounge, heh heh My youngest will be working on NY Eve from 10pm so I am definitely in charge of the remote and not letting eldest watch any tedious documentaries.
One year I went away between Christmas and New Year (the boys were with their grandparents) and the place I went to called it a "Twixmas break"
Morning all,
I was just thinking about the loss of routine this morning in the shower Mary.
I loved my weekend of peace, bought some new coffee tables in the sale and put them up myself , had some friends over for dinner saturday night, then spent all day in my pjs yesterday watching catch up TV!
Had a nasty surprise through the post on saturday from the tax credits office. They've stopped my payments and are asking for £2000 back! They are still convinced my ex is living with me and are considering taking further action!!
Gym for you today sparkling?
hi everyone well back to bein very windy and rainin hard, my son stil gon on his paper round un o he as got 60quid in tips from sum elder people who he delivers to, proud of him,he as ad one siezure in 5 weeks which is good, hopw everyone is ok, what are ur plans for new year eve, im stayin in with kids, getin nibbles etc and watch fireworks at 12 as great view from my garden, see fireworks for miles x
Oh pq - what a come down from your very enjoyable sounding weekend! 
Can you ask your ex to provide evidence that he no longer lives with you and your girls, or is that out of the question? I have to contact the tax credits office myself at some point, though I am not looking forward to it so I will admit to procrastinating somewhat 
(that's me being shamefaced!)
It sounds as though we all wanted you to make it to the gym this morning, sparkling. Did you?
I have to confess I have had a very laid back morning of it, as A was at her dad's last night. She will no doubt want to drag me into town to spend some of her Christmas/birthday money on her return though, so I will have to get organised!
I'm not surprised you're proud of your son, kiera. I admire his determination going out in the wind to deliver his papers today - it is very wild again here. Your plans for NYE sound fab - what is everyone else doing to see out 2013?
Thanks mary, I will start another thread about it as I am fuming and need some advice!
Your son has done well kiera - and deserves it in this weather.
I'm sorry you've had that thrown at you pq. I haven't recovered from them stopping mine, although that was a computer error. I hope you can sort it quickly with a phone call.
I've been to the gym. I had my lonliness meltdown yesterday. While I would still like a new job in the new year, please remind me how much I rely on my current one for company, when I whinge...!
Pouring here again, although the gale is now a wind. The dog is missing runs in the field, but she would be doing the doggie paddle around it, and the mud would be unbearable in the house! She's suffering walks on pavements.
Ah, sorry to hear you had a low day yesterday, sparkling. This time of year - as I keep banging on about - is a difficult one. And everyone is entitled to a whinge now and again.
It was horrid here today weatherwise & A did drag me into town (I had some bills that wouldn't wait, so we really did need to go in). She is a funny thing; all the brand new stuff she got for her birthday and Christmas and she is now totally made up because she has two new books (bought with a book token she recieved) to plough through. Like mother, like daughter - she will immerse herself & I'll have trouble getting her to help me with anything until she's made her way though them both
I'm going to join you in the halo wearing, sparkling. All the recycling got done today, I got round to ringing the tax credits office (sorry to mention them, pq) & I was polite to A's dad when he dropped her off. My sainthood is in the post, right?
Hope everyone is doing ok this evening.
your halo is dazzling Mary
Yesterday was a better day. x
Yes Mary, I can see it shining from here
Glad you had a better day sparkling.
I've got 1 more day of work then a few days off before the girls go back to school. I'm going to spend new years eve with friends then I will head over to my parents and pick the girls up new years day.
Best get on....
You are too kind, ladies!
I'm glad yesterday was better for you too, sparkling. Will the dog get a good walk today? It's grey & miserable looking here, but a lot drier than yesterday (so far, any way!)
Sounds as though you have a busy day or so ahead, pq. Have a great time tonight, won't you? I'm going to an old chum's birthday party! Poor girl always hated her birthday falling on NYE when we were at school but she finds it a good way to get all her family & friends together now. I'm looking forward to seeing her and her parents - a lot of my mispent youth passed at their house.
After being so virtuous yesterday I am having a very relaxed one today. Just going to make some more coffee and play a board game with A.
Have a good day, whatever you're doing.
Hello everyone
PQ that is so dreadful re the tax credits, I have posted on the other thread. Hope you can enjoy NYE anyway.
Mary well done for phoning the TC office. It really is that time of year. My eldest has been rushed off his feet with insurance claims after the floods.
Sparkling, low days are horrid. I always find it really hard to remind myself that IT WILL PASS when I feel like that, do you remember me talking about making yourself a special little box and put it in whatever you like, whether it is little quotes, reminders of music you love, a small bottle of favourite scent (free sample? heh heh) some colouring in to do, a little something to eat (Caramac?), a special photo or two.....You need to make the box up at a time you fele ok, it is a tip that has helped several of my counselling clients.
Kiera I know you were feeling so glad about your son being so long without a seizure and then you had a nasty shock last night. How is he? It must feel as if you daren't leave him alone, hopefully things will settle down again.
Hope you are all going to enjoy yourself this evening, wow 2014 that sounds amazing Eldest is here and hoping for the lion's share of the buffet.
Evening everyone.
I hope everyone is enjoying their NYE in whatever shape or form it is taking. I've got a poorly J so we're having a quiet night in. Am slightly annoyed as his dad should have phoned tonight and has not bothered. Grrr. But that is his problem, not mine!
Am actually quite worried about J. He is really not well. He's been complaining of tummy pains all day and is running a bit of a temp. He's very listless. He's asleep on the sofa at the minute. He fell asleep about half hour ago and I don't want to move him. He's groaning in pain in his sleep. Think I'm going to phone the emergency doctor and see if either someone will come out or I can take him to the walk in centre
Good for you, immi
Hope your "me" time is relaxing.
PQ is A feeling better now?
Kiera I am so sorry to hear about what happened, it is very difficult when a family member has been ill and I know he can get very cross, whereas the fact of the matter is that children can and do scream. You did your best and it sounds as if although you were upset by this, you did not let it spoil your day, I hope not anyway
Skyflower, you are planning a holiday, how lovely
Looby you're right, you have come on in leaps and bounds. I do hope that other parents who are on the earlier stages of the journey are encouraged by your experiences. Sounds like you got some lovely prezzies.
Eldest has gone back. As he got out the car he said "see you at New Year", I said "oh well we will fix something up" and he said " I TOLD you I was coming for New Year" He hadn't; what happened was he was not sure about girlfriend's plans and I said oh well you know you're always welcome here but that was weeks ago. Anyway what with that and youngest's strange working hours it looks like I will need to add more things to the shopping list.
Is anyone watching "Death comes to Pemberley" tonight?