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Hi, I would just like to know if anyone else has felt the same from they had a baby. I have a son who is 9 months old. Since i had him i do not trust anyone with him as i think noone else can look after him as well as i can. I used to love going out with friends at the weekend etc but now i lock myself away with my son and make excuses as to why i cannot see my friends. Sometimes i dont even get ready at all it is an effort really to get out of bed only i have to because i have a child to look after.
I just really want to know if all this will eventually pass. I dont really want to feel like this all the time. Ihave lost all my confidence since i have had my son dont feel attractive at all even when i do get ready.
Thank You :)
Summer11
Hello, you are very welcome here. You're probably right, no-one CAN look after him as well as you 
but they can look after him well ENOUGH for him to be left. When you do start to leave him, I would suggest you just leave him for 15 mins to start with, and then half an hour and gradually build it up. Is your mum around, or do you have a sister or a neighbour who is experienced wich children? What about your baby's dad? Is he involved at all?
I agree with Hazeleyes about speaking with your GP, heath visitor and friends. Do you go to any mum and baby groups? It is really important for your son to see and interact with other children, and it is helpful for you to share things with other mums too. Your health visitor will know what is in your area, or you could look at netmums
There is loads of support here so I do hope you become a regular visitor!
Hi Summer. Welcome along to One Space. It does sound as if you have a bit of depression following the birth of your son. Have you spoken to your health visitor or GP over this? I would say this is the first thing to do, but also chat to your friends about it, as they too can offer you some support. Tell them exactly how you're feeling. Lots of women feel this way after the birth, and sometimes it can go undiagnosed for a long time.
As for feeling the way you do about leaving your baby, I was exactly the same, though I didn't go out, I just wanted to do everything for my son, not wanting others to even change his nappy! I would say a majority of new Mums feel this, so I would say that is normal.
Do chat to your health visitor though, who will be completely understanding. Keep posting here too, as others will be along during the day to welcome you along, and offer their support. It's a great site, so do hope you stay with us. xx