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we were in ikea today and he walked in with his new g/f. i was scared and angry but trying to hide it from our daughter. Anyways he blanked her. yes before you ask if he saw us he definately did. i practically walked into him. :( we were sat in the cafe 3 tables apart and he blanked her. his g/f kept giving me worried looks so no doubt he's told her i'm the devil incarnate which is funni;y enough what he told me about his ex. Anyhow I suggested to my daughter she go say hi but to my amasement she said no. she doesn't want to talk to him cos hes not seen her for over a week and he doesn't want to see her till next yr. What the hell do i say to her when she asks why he didn't speak ? why he didn't so much as wave. Hell if it was the other way round and he'd had the kids i'd have at least waved. What a snake :(
got a feeling if she ever does get to see him again he will lie ad say he didn't see her.
Hi tiggerbunny. Am not surprised that you are angry. That's an awful thing to do, ignoring the child. I do hope you're okay.
The Git did that to the youngest when we were in the chip shop. I made the point of sending son to him and walking up to him to discuss a letter that he'd not acknowledged.
It is awful.
For me its good cos it keep the anger not the fear simmering. Also plays into my hands when we go to court next month. But for her ? could so easily gone over and caused a scene.............which would have done no good at all. But even so what a waste of skin is he and she's gone down in my estimation too.
Don't blame you for feeling as you do! as long as you keep the emotion away from your daughter, which you did, as you did not make a scene.
Hi tiggerbunny
Yes he may very well say that. And maybe if she asks then that's what you need to say too....not in a definite way but more along the lines of "oh well, maybe dad didn't see you, or he might have felt embarrassed because he didn't want to see me, don't worry about it....." and change the subject. I agree, it was a very upsetting thing for him to do, but don't let your understandable anger cloud the way you deal with this.