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I'm going to have to involve daughter with this...
Fourteen year old has come in all quiet. His once best friend and other mates have pushed him in the snow (and mud) at school and dragged him across the ground for a bit.
He reckons his friends thought it was funny.
Son has this habit of pretending to fall, and makes a clown of himself, which could be encouraging this.
Talking with daughter now, and we're (oldest here too) not sure what to do.
The pretending to fall part, and the fact it is this lad - who generally is lovely - is creating a dilemma.
Things have been difficult for a while now.
Thanks Louise, I think that will be the best way.
I need to go when the dad isn't there, as that's where the politics of the football club into it. The way people were towards me after that short time of being involved with it has been incredibly disappointing. This lad's dad is involved with an ongoing rumbling.
Too many coincidences for it not to be connected.
Have had a serious chat with 14 year old, trying to say he needs to stop doing this too. He feels he's being ignored (his social skills are not brilliant - especially now he's coming up to 15 and 6' tall). The sad part is he doesn't know how to help himself.
I was so stupid wading it with the football. I really thought I could help, instead I have people I've known for years who still ignore me.
Oh Sparkling, that is so sad for your fourteen year old. I thought things were more or less sorted between his so called 'best' friend now. Perhaps they didn't realise how upset your son was and is, but nevertheless, they shouldn't have done it. A quiet word with the Mum does sound like a good idea though. Does the boy still come to your house? I really hope your son is ok.
xx
No, he hardly comes at all now, and it stopped instantly when there was a row between the coach of the team youngest played for and the coach there's been issues with, who has set up another team. The friend's dad is good mates with this coach.
Its too much of a coincidence for things not to be connected, as the friend was stopped from coming to Scouts that week when he couldn't wait for the next session.
Son needs to stop clowning about. He doesn't understand that it may be funny once, but carried on.
I'll stop off at her place tomorrow when the husband is working.
Daughter has agreed to help out. His friend, who's a girl 
, usuall tells her Mum if there are any problems in school, as she is with this group that 'hang out'. She's not said a word, so it could be that is has been done in innocence and its and excuse for muddy trousers.
It's awful when you just can't sus things out! Would hate to get the wrong end of the stick.
Blooming freezing here. Fan heater on in the kitchen, fire blasting in the living room. Cold weather payment has kicked in though.
Hi sparkling lime
Yes it is difficult to know how to resolve this. Are you on decent terms with the other boy's parent? If so it might be worth having a quiet word and saying that your son isn't coping with this very well at the moment and asking her/him to have a word with the other boy. You could say to the parent that you realise that your boy does this pretending to fall down thing and doesn't quite realise that the other boys might think he is fair game.