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Went to parents evening last night... still shaking. It seems so strange how brave I am in Court, as somehow I feel protected with solicitors and barristers there. Just a simple parent evening, he had never been before ever to a parent evening, and there he was, sitting opposite me and glaring. I was so scared and felt so stupid as I have left the house more than 2 years ago and yet being still so scared.
Thank you for your reply Louise and your understanding!
If he still unsettles you, you can speak with the teacher and explain your situation to her and ask if you could have a meeting with her seperately on another day from the parents evening, schools are pretty good in these kind of situations.
Thank you Sally, you see, there is a booking system in place and I just followed the instructions. I will just phone the school next time. Thank you very much
hello,yes my ex left me over 2 years ago and while he was on bail he went to one sons parents evening and not to the little ones this upset me loads as we just missed each other i went mad but you can book different times and days and the schools can do this. now both of them have moved up one to seniors and the other to juniors and now cause he cant see them due to a court order he as over 2 weeks ago decided to go into the seniors asking about his son and wanting to go to parents evening and there he was told he would have go different times and even a different day so you can do this .
reading form above i have to inform my ex of any health issues and he is to write to them each month but as not since last year and ony a brief note christams any info on their schooling he is to get it from the school by asking them to send him a copy of their reports but this he as only done since a year ago
Thanks for that info, shaz 
book sepearte parents evening times so u dont have to see him or sit with him
many parents do this, ring the school ahead of parents eve to organise ur time sepeartely from his
or even a seperate day
Thank you very much Shaz and Chocolate81.
I will do that
Hello, how scary for you, I always hated it if I came face to face with my ex unexpectedly. "Unexpectedly" is the key here, I believe; if you knew it was going to happen then you could be prepared, you could have taken someone else with you, you could have contacted the school and asked if he was going and asked to have a different time/different day. Some parents ask to see the teacher on a different day to ANY parents' evenings just in case this happens; you can explain how scary you find this.
School plays etc are harder as they often only happen on one night. This could be a case where you take someone with you. I remember going to a school concert one summer evening and trying to do the right thing, sat with my son's dad. As we sat down, his bare arm brushed mine, I was nearly sick!
The inescapable fact remains that if we have a child with a person then it is pretty likely that the person will be around on the periphery of our lives until the child is 16 or so. This is a really hard fact to accept but it's true and something we DO need to get our heads round, in fact I think it is one of the biggest challenges we single parents face.
He does have a right to be kept informed by the school and attend parents' evenings. Do you have any contact with him at all? I was just wondering if it was an idea to grasp the nettle and email him in advance of concerts etc and agree between you who would go to what.
It would be great for others to share their experiences about exes going to school events