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Hi all,
Not sure if this is the correct forum or not?? My wife and I seperated about three months ago. It has mostly been amicable. We have agreed to my payments towards kids etc. I have a child as well from a previous relationship that also gets privately paid for by me. I have had to crash at my parents for a while until I rent a new place. I also have the kids overnight once or twice a week every week while I have my other son for all school holidays.
My question is based on the fact that I am in full time work and she is not. My wife is now getting most benefits and allowances to enable her to move into a nice 3 bedroomed rented house.
Does anyone know if there is anything as a Father who supports his children financially and has them overnight etc that I might be entitled to?
It all seems very difficult to find anything that is not just based on your wages.
Cheers,
Rick
Thanks for the answer Anna.
It just seems that the wages don't seem to leave me much after all after rent and payments to my kids, which of course I would not stop doing.
My children are 8 (boy), 11 (boy from previous relationship) & 12 (girl from my wifes previous relationship who I have bought up as my own since she was 1).
Rick
Hi Rickyb
Did you email the money service? Sadly there is no consideration given in "the system" for the fact that you pay maintenance for the children and over my ten years of experience of working with separated parents I have seen a number of cases of the parent without majority care experiencing financal hardship as the benefit system is geared to those with the majority care, now of course I understand that those with the children need the most help but have always thought that the Working Tax Credit system should also take account of the NET amount of money a parent without care has after they have paid the child support!
Louise
For fear of upsetting you and your site again - agreed the system does not take in to consideration the non-resident parents income, except when the non-resident parent ceases work - which happened in my case, to apparently stop any payment.
I think you have a good site and offer good advice, still cannot find the male forum bit.
M66
I write for fathers for justice, thanks sparklinglime
sparklinglime - thank you for the link, do you read what the `dads` say? I am not sure if you work on this forum. I appologise if I have offended you previously.
Still prefer the company of women 
I don't work on the forum. I've posted on here for a few years now - three or four years.
Being on my own, I come here for guidance, for laughter and for comfort. It depends what things are going on at the time.
Sorry if I offended you, I am a single dad. I am quite nice really
You didn't offend me. But then I will put forward my opinion too... I try to word things so I don't offend, but then I will defend this forum It rarely lets parents down.
And there have been - and are - single dad's here as well as single mum's.
Well there we go, please put forward your opinions - there are not many single dads on this site. If there are, they are not as forward in their thoughts as me. As I said, I write for many forums, not exactly sure that this one is neutral?
It's pretty good, but it is funded for the parent with care, which ever gender.
I do think the moderators are very good and are as fair as they can be.
And I'm sure its the same on your site, it can depend on what is happening in your life on a particular day at a particular moment as to how you can reply.
I'm sure its the same on FnF, the posters have their tales.
Even when you're being child focused, you can still get it so your the winner - and that can apply to either gender...
At the end of the day, I'm quite certain that the father of my children will have a completely different perspective on things compared to me...
Just I know which of us has the right version 
Hello - is it your version? I know I am going to get banned from this site, but I am trying to be unbiased.
I write for many other sites, but why are you replying in this manner - you are not rude, but you are clearly biased towards the mother, no matter the situation!
Reading your replies to me, you clearly have your opinions and they differ to mine, if this is the general opinion from staff on this site, then I may cease my membership and pass on my findings.
FAO the staff.
M66
And there was me thinking I was being unbiased...
Snap.
I think that it's ashame that you're not going to stay and be a member and join in discussions.
Why challenge when you can have a positive input is something I don't understand.
Anyhow. I'm glad you and your son are settled.
Goodnight.
I get a bit fustrated with situations. Sorry sparklinglime, it happens to us all.
It is true that we are funded for the parent with care, and number crunching-wise, the vast majority of those are women. The system is changing though, and good thing too!
Mark66 if you do not like this site and it feels at odds with your own views then you are free to decide not to continue.
Sparkling, you're right, everyone will have their own viewpoint as to what may be happening/have happened in their own lives and a story will be recounted differently by each person involved in it.
Hi rickyb
I don't think I have heard of any fathers benefits exactly and as you say all benefits are related to wages. However I am not an expert, so the best people to ask would be our 1-2-1 confidential money advice email service.
How old are your children?