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Hi,
My husband of 16 years and friend for over 20 years have this week split up, we still love each other but are nolonger IN love with each other. At lot have things have happened in our life together and now i feel so alone.
We have 2 kids, girl 17 and a boy 15, it is so hard trying to stay strong for them that i am starting to fall apart.
I have an appoint with the GP this moring as i cannot go on feeling so out of control and i need to take back some control of what is happening.
My husband were so close, we did not need friends as we just needed each other and now i have nobody i can talk to and it hurts so much.
I know i will come through it, but it's so hard at the moment
thank you xx
My daughter is fine, but my son is talking but not saying much.
We worked things out like grown ups, he is paying the mortage, as i don't earn much.
We are talking to each other daily and i hope we will still remain friends
thank you xx
My daughter is fine, but my son is talking but not saying much.
We worked things out like grown ups, he is paying the mortage, as i don't earn much.
We are talking to each other daily and i hope we will still remain friends
hi sheppeylady
welcome to this site this is fab for support and advice to stay posting . i know what you mean when you said you still love him and you feel alone but do go to the doctor and take little steps at first because it is all so daunting and new at the minute so take each day as it comes and welcome again
Let us know how you get on at the GP 
Hi sheppeylady
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I do hope that things can remain amicable, and I hope your children adjust quickly.
I hope the appointment with the GP went well.
Looking forward to getting to know you. This site can be good company.
Visit to GP went well, gave me a short course of Antidepressants, took one last night overslep and was late for work.
But of the plus side I have not had a melt down, even when OH started ranting and raving about me using his tools "you got the house do not touch my f*ing tools etc"
So i am really proud of myself xx
Tomorrow will be difficult as he is coming over to pack up the rest of his stuff, fixing my car and then taking our son out for a "chat"
But i have now removed my head from my a*** and getting on with things, not sure if it's the tablets or i have turned a corner...only time will tell
Hi sheppeylady, good to see you.
The anti depressants themselves will take a couple of weeks to be fully effective but I remember when I took them myself that, despite what the doctor said, within a very few days, I woke up one morning and thought "I can cope" Perhaps, for both of us it has helped to know that we were doing something about it and were on the right road?
Well done for keeping it together when he was ranting about the tools. Now, big challenge today.....One thing that helped me was I would pretend that I was in a play, I would sort of think out the plot in advance, eg "Louise's ex comes round to fix the car, pack his stuff and see his son. Throughout the whole visit, she stays calm despite the turmoil inside"...and I would think Ok now that is the part I have to play 
Good luck with it all.
Thanks Louise,
I AM going to keep it together today xxxxxx
Hi sheppeylady,
How did it go yesterday, did you keep it together?
Hello sheppeylady
You are weclome here and there is lots of online support and friendship waiting for you.
My heart goes out to you, the two of you have obviously made this decision together with great sadness. I am glad you are seeing your doctor, you may get some medication and you may also be referred to counselling.
As for being lonely, I know it is not the same but I presume you will still stay friends. Have you worked things out on a practical basis, such as where you will both live, and the money side of things?
Keep talking to us and we will keep supporting you. Do remember that the Samaritans are there 24 hours a dayto talk to at the end of the phone. Their number is 08457 909090.
How are the children doing?