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Just a quick question - Do I have any rights over seeing my grandson - Sorry Im in work and a little vauge will be back on my lunch
Hi Sorry this morning was a little rushed. I have not spoken to my daugter since Jan. She sent my a vile message on blackberry messenger and then inboxed me on facebook and deleted me.
Im the worlds worst mother done nothing for her ect ect - you know how it goes - funny the other 3 of my children all think im the best mother you could ask for.
She has a son who is 2 in sep. I used to have him the odd saturday if i wasnt working and she was. I told her i didnt mind but couldnt do it everyweek and every friday night i would get a message about 10pm can i have him when im in work 6am doing over time.
I miss him so much but se the other 2 to my other daughters. I asked my daughter to ask her if I could see him on my day off - she was working but her auntie had him - she lied said she was not working that day as her auntie was going to the hospital - and I should get someone else to do my effing dirty work.
Im gutted
It sounds as though it would be really good to clear the air would be really good, however how you do that I don't know.
Does she get a lot of support from her auntie? Could you have a chat with that auntie, perhaps the three of you, saying that this really needs to be sorted out?
Do you know why she is so angry with you, do you think it is just because you wouldn't babysit every Saturday?
I believe that by law grandparents do not have any "rights" but courts always put the childs needs first and if they think they benefit from seeing the grandparents they may sort out some kind of visiting rota (from what im told)
Hi
Sorry Ive not been about but been made busy with work, poorly children and insomnia.
Anyway I took control of the daughter situation text about the little fellas birthday - he had been to my house for the day while my other daughter was looking after him. It was lovely I got big hugs (he is just 2)
So I got a polite reply so i took it a step further and asked if I could drop his presents off. All ok I even got a cup of tea.
We havent discussed the vile rant but Im happy to build on what i have and move on.
Thank you for all the advice Im glad I didnt have to take legal advice. I just hope it carries on like this.
HM
Glad things seem to be improving....even if you have not been able to tackle the subject of the rant!
The "grandparents' rights" argument can leave you batting on a sticky wicket, and I have known people spend a great deal of money in the courts with very little result. The system assumes that each parent will arrange appropriate contact with their extended family, whereas this is not always the case!
Im hoping things carry on as they are - i even had a random text off her yesterday.
x
I hope so too.
I know my lot have loved having their grandparents in their lives.
Things are looking positive happymamma 
Hi happy mamma, you might be interested in this response from Grandparents Legal Advice on this matter or see these two factsheets from Grandparents Association
Contact with a Grandchild
Arguments to be used by Grandparents seeking contact with a Grandchild
The bottom line seems to be that you should endeavour to communicate well with your grandchilds parents, however if that is not possible and you feel it is in your grandchilds best interests then you could apply to court for a Contact Order.
What is going on for you?