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had big fall out with my eldest son, we fell out, he tuk battery out my laptop bhind my back, i aske dhim put ti bk in he refused,so i tuk his laptop and placed it in the garden and tuk bk doorr key and front door key so he cudnt get it , my younger son very upset so for him i brought laptoop bk in, he as stil refused put battery bk in my laptop, fumin but left it, we are not spkin, he threatended to wake up my dawter if u=i didnt giv him laptop bk, dotn no wot to do, he also smirkin at me which winds me up
Hello dear kiera, I really sympathise with you, 15 year old boys can be very difficult!
As hard as it is to ignore the smirking, if you let him see it gets to you then he wins. At the moment you have a stand-off situation as far as I can understand it, right? So something's got to give.
It's not helpful to talk to him about when while you are feeling angry, because it's hard to keep calm. But when you ARE feeling calmer he needs to understand that you expect him to respect you. I am wondering if the reason he did this is for attention? You have been busy with his brother's birthday, and always have to watch him a bit extra because of the fits....then there is your little girl who is at the most demanding age...then there is your eldest daughter who is really close to you, so he might be feeling a bit left out and chooses to be "naughty" as a way for you to notice him more? Rather than telling him off (which is what I would feel like doing myself!) can you say to him "hey I was not happy with what you did but it made me realise that you and I don't have that much time together and I would like to change that, what could we do to get a bit closer to each other?"