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Hi
I have just had a week off work only to be pulled in the office on my 1st day back. I work in a business where Data Protection is vital.
Someone has called in pretending to want to join us but then expressed concerns that I discuss clients bussiness and details outside of work. (they have named me)
The good thing is work are not taking it any futher and are aware of my situation with the ex (we are convinced its him and his wife) To be honest work have been very supportive I could not ask for anything more. I love my work
Because of Data Protection Im not able to listen to the call (would be great cause im sure i would know the vioce strsight away)
I have reported it to the police who have noted it for information only but Im woundering if I can take this futher. I could have lost my job over this and I have been her for years
I have an harassment warning against my ex. I have been advised to send him and her a letter by a solicitor making them aware I will take it futher if they continue with their actions.
I can not discuss with my work mates as I feel it has already damaged my reputation.
Does anyone have any advice - the harassment has been going on for 6 years and getting worse (the good thing is I told my boss they have tried everything else and would target my work place)
HM
I got advice from a legal line that I have through my bank. I have to find a solicitor and they money to get a letter sent. I cant get any help with the costs like my divorce i had to fund it myself x
How awful for you happy mamma, glad your work are understanding and supportive.
Hi happy mamma, it is good to 'see' you again, but I am so sorry to read about this latest episode. It sounds as though you are dealing with everything and are on top of things, although I imagine inside, you just want to have a break from all this harassment.
You said that you can't discuss this with your work mates because you feel it has already damaged your reputation - you have nothing to feel guilty about - none of this is your fault. Please do not feel as though you need to keep quiet about this. Sing it loud, you need support right now and it is horrible being targetted in such a way.
Can you get any help from Victim Support?
Thanks Anna and panakequeen
Never thought of victim support will look into this tomorrow. My work mates know im going though a lot but feel like 'bleep' always has something going on in her life.
I want then to think i have a 'normal' life and its hard to hide
HM
But as Anna has said, you have done nothing wrong.
Yes, legal aid is very hard to come by these days so you will have to pay for a solicitior's letter (another annoying factor when you are not the guilty party)
Did you contact Victim Support? Is this something they can support you with?
Hi
I have not had 2 minutes to contact victim support this weekend. I have been really unwell since this happened. Im back in work today so just going to have a look on line as I need this sorted out once and for all
I will keep you posted
HM
Hi happy mamma, I am so sorry to hear that you have been unwell, no doubt your body reacting to the stress.
How was work today?
Hi Anna work busy but thats good im at my desk now and i can acess the victim support website. I have borrowed an ipad so going to try to get on to them at lunch. I was busy last night dropping my daughter at the airport getting home having tea and waiting for her text to say they were on the run way so I could wave them off (we live a few miles from the airport so can see them) vert emotional she has gone for 2 weeks
HM
Aww but hope she will have a wonderful holiday and hopefully get a break from all that is happening. Hard for you when you will miss her and wish you could get a break yourself!
So good luck with finding that support, you need to be strong now and do everything you can. Let us know how you get on.
Thanks louise I'm off to see my best friend on thursday she moved away 15yrs ago and we don't see much of each other we speak lts on the phone but now been 2 yrs since I went to see her will do me the world of good x
Brilliant! Seeing your friend sounds just like what the doctor ordered!
Did you get anywhere with Victim Support?
H Anna
No, the internet was down in work and didnt want to go on line at my desk i have got the number to call now and have put it in my phone for morning the good news is my ex is away this week so i can relax a little - think i might ring his work lol
HM
happy mamma, enjoy a week of peace and do not call his work place 
Hi Anna
Dont worry im better than them. More information has come to light and I have been to see my managing director. I have also been and spoken to my local councillor who has offered to help me and get the police to take some action. They are looking at everything that has happened then getting in touch with my work where they will want voice recordings and details ect
Sorry not been about been busy in work overtime keeping my head above water
HM x
Hi Happy mamma,
You have such a lot to deal with, so glad you are getting support from what seem like influential people, I really hope they can help you.
Hi happy mamma, ditto pancakequeen. It is great that you are able to talk with your managing director and that your local councillor has offered to get the police to step in. Good work from you!
Keep swimming, we are here when you need us! 
Hello again happy mamma
How dreadful that this has happened. You already have a harrassment warning issued and a solicitor's letter will be sent (good idea) I am glad you have reported it to the police, please do this every time anthing happens, and get an incident number if possible. Keep your own record of what has happened. The Harrassment Act exists to protect people but often a great deal of evidence is required. What does your solicitor say?