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need help for me and my 3 young kids x they got took off me in early this year x and the social workers r not workin with me to get them back x so i need HELP x
Hi Elizabethchristie, welcome to one space.
I`m sorry your children were taken into care, are they being fostered together or seperated?
I`m not sure if you want to go into why they were taken entirely up to you xxx
Do you have regular contact with them?
How old are they?
You might not like the next thing I say to you, but I am not saying it to hurt you or to put you down in any way but you say the social workers are not working with you to get your children back living with you, are you working with them to achieve this too, I know thats not easy as it feels like they hold all the aces but co-operation from you is vital.
I do hope you will stay with one space, others will be along to offer advice and support xxx
Hi elizabethchristie
Welcome to One Space!!
I am sorry to hear about your children, it sounds as if they were taken into care, is that right? I have a couple of links you might find helpful to tell you about in a minute.
One thing I have found in my experience of Child Protection procedures is that the parents (you) can sometimes feel powerless and as if they are being blamed more than neccessary...and this can mean that the parents become angry and frustrated, and therefore behave in an angry way. It is really important to remember that if you want care of your children you need to go along with what is asked of you (although I do know that sometimes what is asked of you does seem illogical)...for example I was working with a Mum whose children were in care and one of the conditions of her getting them back again was her attending a parenting course, so what did the social workers do? they arranged every Child Protection meeting to clash with the time of the parenting course so the mother could not go to the course!!! See what I mean?
Ok here are those links. Firstly, here is an organisation that offers support to families who have Social Services involvement and secondly here is an organisation that gives emotional support to mums separated from their children. Finally here is the best site I have found to understand what you are going through and there is a Freephone helpline as well. I do hope this helps.
Good luck elizabethchristie.
I really hope you are able to get some help.
thank you all so much x
Hi elizabethchristie, did you try any of the links that Louise provided for you? How are you doing?
i need some links for glasgow x got another childrens panal next tuesday x i c my kids today x but cooped up in a small room x bummer x
That's not good 
Is that becasue they are wanting to supervise contact at the moment?
I have not got any links specific to Glasgow, your best bet is to get in contact with the link I provided that has a free Helpline....if there are any specialist services in Glasgow then they will know about them
thanks louise x
I am knew to all this and have care of my grandchildren since september 2011. What I did notice that every person of status always said, "Don't fight them"... the Social Workers. I always found this quite puzzling as why would people state this. Now I know. I drop into a Kinship Carer's Group on a tuesday morning and have found as many others it depends on the social worker who is dealing with your case. My granchildren's ex social worker was arrogant...the next social worker was even worse.
Suffice to say I have had an awful time with these people as they can play hard ball if the fancy takes them. I think this government give these people far too much clout as there are those who abuse this. But on every site I have read up on on this internet the advise is always the same....never give up. I originally had three grandchildren placed in my care but one was known to "kick off" I received no support when he did and he was taken into foster care being told to regard it as respite over the weekend - maybe to Monday or during the week. Some 8 months later my grandson is still in Foster Care and it has cost me a bit of money in legal fees to fight this. I have no intentions of ever giving up. These people forget that it is our flesh and blood we are dealing with and not just statistics.
So, elizabethchristie, where he is not my birth child he is very much a part of me and I can appreciate your trauma.
I pray for you these people aren't setting out unrealistic rules for you as they have my son who is not allowed to approach his children should we bump into him which we had on one accassion and he didn't approach. This caused my grandchildren alot of distress and hurt. These people do not explain to the children why they lay these rules down they just leave the carer to pick up their little pieces.
God Bless
Hello plookyskin
Your story is very touching, and I feel sad that you have gone through all this.
Have you had any support from organisations such as the Family Rights Group or The Grandparents Association ? Click to see their websites.
Hi elizabethchristie. Welcome along. Really sorry to hear that the children have been taken off you. Is it the Dad that got full custody, or were they taken by social workers themselves? Are you still having contact with the children? This must be so distressing for you, and I hope you keep posting as others will be along at some point. Louise, the moderator is sure to know some useful links for you. xx