Hi everyone! I'm a 20 year old single mum of a 5 year old girl. (Yeah, go on, do the maths!) I have a nvq 3 in childcare & an a-level in child psychology & have previously worked in childcare. Im looking for work but havent found anything :(
Anywho, I've been a single mum since before daughter was born. On/off contact with her dad (between me & him) has been awful. He saw her once when she was 2 weeks old through social services, after that he didnt see our daughter again. We've been arguing ever since. Only recently have i decided to start putting in a csa claim. Now he wants to know if he can see our daughter when i've moved (should be in the next 2-3 months) Me being the soft bugger i am, am letting him do this but under my curcumstances. He is also getting married this year which means his other half will be at most of the visits & will be paying for his travel. Not my problem i know but because im too tired to argue anymore i've given him the right to bring his other half.
We'll see how that goes. Aside from that im a bubbly, confident, giggly & helpful person. Apparently i should go into councelling as thats what im best at, support and advice. 
Hi Emmeilu
Good luck with the job hunt. You have brilliant qualifications, so I hope you're not looking too long.
My lot are getting on a bit now, but The Git introduced them to new partners very quickly and the children coped ok. He married the third.
It will be good if your daughter has a good relationship with her father. I know my lot miss their dad, especially my daughter who is now 18.
Aww thank you ladies its much appriciated :)
Hi Emmielu
Welcome to One Space, great to have you aboard!
It sounds as though you have been keeping yourself very busy alongside raising a little one. You should be really proud of yourself.
You are in control of t his situation, although it feels hard, you are doing what you believe is right for your daughter. She has a right to know her dad growing up and you are giving her the opportunity.
The wife-to-be might be a blessing in disguise! I think you are going to just have to play this by ear. Presumably you will be at the first few meetings as your daughter doesn't know her father?
Good luck with the job hunting, it can be really demoralising when you have trained hard and then can't find work. But you will.
Are you moving far from where you live now? Do you have friends or family where you are moving to?
Hi Emmeilu. Welcome along to One Space. I do hope your ex keeps in touch with your daughter, as he has said he will do. It would have been better for him to build up a relationship with her, before she meets the soon to be wife, but I don't think you could actually have stopped him anyway to be honest.