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stacie45
DoppleMe

Hi im stacie and im totally new to this so not sure where to start or what to write lol

urm will just start with bacis dont want to bore u

im 23 i have a 21 month old daughter. i became a single mum in july last year. but kinda felt like i had beena single mum for longer as i did most things and hardly saw her dad even though we lived together.it has been hard work since july, i had to move out stayed with family.

i would like to get to speak to other single parents,not many of my friends have children or if they have they arent single so dont understand in a way. would be nice to make friends.

hope wasnt to boring thanks x

Posted on: April 14, 2012 - 3:51pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello stacie45

You are very welcome here and there is no way you would bore us!

So, your daughter is 21 months, that is an exciting age, just learning new words, and keeping you on the go running around all day I guess? Are yout still living with family? Do they give you some help and support? Does your daughter see her dad?

Sorry for so many questions but looking forward to hearing more about you smiley

Posted on: April 14, 2012 - 5:50pm

stacie45
DoppleMe

Thank you!

Yes is an exciting age she's learning new words everyday, she says quite a few words already and puts a few in sentences. Yes she's very active and always on the go.

Yes am still with family atm but hopefully will have own place soon, need independance.yes they support me and help which is nice.

Don't worry about all the questions. How many children do u have?

Posted on: April 14, 2012 - 6:16pm

kiera

hi i have a 19 month old daughter, very demanding,just geting out of emotionaly abusive relationship, hard,av 2 sons as well and 18 year old daughter at uni,im just on my own al time,wel me and kids, i av ad alot of support over years, now i dont as much, my dad had brain hemorage and a stroke in january,my mun not well so bin hard,then stress of ex harassing me 

Posted on: April 14, 2012 - 7:07pm

stacie45
DoppleMe

Yes they are very demanding and u can't take your eyes off them for a minute.
It is hard when come out of a relationship esp when children are involved. Was hard when mine ended. But I'm over it and just think of all the positives.

Yes being on your own is quite hard I just try to find things to do to keep busy. Sorry to hear about your parents. Hope they get better. Are u not talking to your ex anymore?

Posted on: April 14, 2012 - 8:18pm

hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi stacie45, welcome along. Yes, single parenthood can be hard work, but at the end of the day, all our hard work is down to us, so we can take all of the credit yes Glad you have support. Look forward to 'chatting'.

Posted on: April 14, 2012 - 10:01pm

stacie45
DoppleMe

Thank u! Yes would be nice to chat.

Yes is hard work but I love it and am so proud of her. I love doing all the work in a way and means I don't miss anything. X

Posted on: April 14, 2012 - 10:05pm

kiera

hi well we av been on and off for 2 half years,he did seriously assault me on holiday, i took him back after 2 months,wish i hadnt, its all playing mind games and threats, ad police involved, hard tho,ex wont leave me alone,harasment orders dont bover him, he stil kept ringing off witheld when he was on bail for harassing me,anxious al time,kids notice it, im up at this time as my daughter woke up

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 1:23am

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Kiera you were out of bed at a late time, hope you're not too tired today.

Stacie, sounds like you are moving forward with your life now. I am one of the moderators here, with Anna and Sally, I have two boys, became a single parent when they were eight and three and they are now twenty two and seventeen!!! so I certainly have had all sorts of experiences.

What are the words your little girl is saying?

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 7:13am

stacie45
DoppleMe

Kiera that sounds very hard and must have been hard time for u. Just think of positives atleast u aren't in that relationship anymore. That's what I did after mine.

Yes kids do notice when mum is stressed etc my little one picks up on it. Hope u are ok.

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 5:22pm

stacie45
DoppleMe

Yes am moving forward with my life and its going quite well. I have my daughter that's all I need!

Yes I bet you have had many experiences. How did your boys cope when you became single parent? Where they ok with it?

She says mummy, micky and minnie, hat. Chair, meow, kitty, hello, bye bye, juice, cup of tea and many more she puts some together to make sentences.

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 5:25pm

kiera

hi well ex txts nice then he txts nasty threats, hes so predictable now, wish he would disapear, but i no its not gona happen,i feel like i am in that relationship as he doesnt leave me alone,im ok,

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 6:56pm

stacie45
DoppleMe

Just ignore all his txts unless they are important ones. Try not to let him get you down hun. X

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 7:00pm

kiera

il try, gona get my little girl to bed now,then sort out 2 lads,they start back school tomoz, x

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 7:20pm

Anna
Online
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi stacie45, welcome to One Space from me smiley

I had just turned 22 when I had my daughter, a lot of my friends were off travelling the world whilst I was home alone with my little one.

It can be hard when everyone is busy with their lives and partners etc. My daughter is now 17 (surprisestill can't believe that!) and I can honestly say that I wouldn't have had it any other way. I have friends now who are trying for children, have settled down and bought houses and cars etc and although this was what I always wished for - and felt hard done by, because I didn't have it - NOW my life is just about to change and I am young enough to do anything I want!! cool

Look forward to getting to know you. Does your daughter see her father? How is your relationship with him?

Posted on: April 16, 2012 - 9:45am