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Babe

Hi I have never done anyhting like tis before but he wat the H. I just thought I would try it to get some advice, I have a 12 yr old daughter I have been split up from her dad for 8 yrs now he has never paid much towards his daughter and I have to do it all, when i ask its "I cant afford it" well I still have to struggle to pay it is there a way I can get money from him legally and a decent amount to bring his daughter up, everything is an effort for him, I am not sure how much I should get but i think it is more than £25 week.

Posted on: March 17, 2012 - 4:06pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

hello Babe

Welcome to One Space!

If he has no other children to support (either his own or ones with whom he lives but aren't his) then he has to pay 15% of his gross wages to you, according to the Child Support Agency formula. If he does not pay then the CSA can ask his employer to deduct it before they pay him and send it to them. So if he is giving you £25 a week and there are no other children in the picture then that would correct if his wages before tax were £167 a week. If he is working fulltime then even on minimum wage he will be earning more than that!

Have a look at this website here

Posted on: March 17, 2012 - 6:12pm

Anna
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Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Babe, your ex certainly should be paying for your daughter and you should definitely be applying for it. Contact our Child Support Agency expert who will be able to give you a personalised details on how to move forward with this and get the best service, you might be able to get it backdated perhaps?

Does your daughter visit him?

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 9:48am

Babe

Hi yes thanks for the reply, all this is good information, my daughter see her dad every other weekend. I got the amount wrong as it works out to be 17.30 a week, I will look on the site you recommended straight away.

Thank you

 

 

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 5:56pm

Anna
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Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Babe, I hope you find the answers you are looking for on the website, or by asking our Expert.

Does your daughter get on well with her dad? It can be annoying when we fork out money everything, but if we ask our ex for any help, they think that we want to go on a spending spree for ourselves!!

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 6:08pm

Babe

He only has our daughter as far a sI know, he is seeing another woman who has x2 teenagers but he only see her every weekend, they do not live together, i got the amount wrong it works out to be £17.30 a week on a good one. its £75 a month or sometimes £60 I need it a set amount and so he has to pay. not fare I have all the resposiblity in money looking after her she is 12yrd old wants wants wants, I dont know how I can find out what he earns he would never tell me, aswell as his job he makes money on th side doing computers.

 

Thank you

 

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 6:14pm

Babe

Well as far as I know she does not too keen on going there so much as she is growing up, he is very selfish I think she is starting to see this now. yes he is like that he buys her clothes for her birthday or xmas but takes all the labels out so i cant take the back if they don't fit or she doesnt like them, sad thinks I am going to spend the money if only. I send her with pants on a weekend and she never comes back with them as it means he does not have to buy any, he keep the ones I put in, so again I am spending spending. they say they will not leave the dads destitute but what about the moms who just have to cope no matter what, he says no to giving me any money for say a school trip I still have to find the oney and pay myself.   NO MORE IF I CAN HELP IT, if I can get some legal help I will be so much more happier.

Thank you for listening. sorry about the typing and spelling

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 6:19pm

Anna
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Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Babe, don't worry about the spelling, we don't!

I hope that you get a response soon from our expert in regards to going forward with this. The CSA will be able to get him to pay via his work, but unfortunately if he is working on the side, unless you have proof, then that will go unaccounted for.

We also have a legal expert online who may be able to help you, but I would see what our CSA expert says first.

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 6:27pm

Babe

I have clicked on the link and asked for some advice, so we will see what the outcome will be, thank you for your time and help, will keep you posted in the outcome.

Thanks

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 6:30pm

Anna
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Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Great, have a good evening Babe (ooh! I haven't called anyone babe in a long time cheeky)

Posted on: March 19, 2012 - 6:49pm