Hi,
I am not sure if this is the correct forum although I guess I know what the answer is anyway...
My separation and divorce were very messy - thanks mainly to my ex who instantly treated my children as a commodity to use as a threat / bargaining chip etc.
I took her to court 4 times over contact issues and she has breached court orders 14 times, her excuse was that contact was damaging the girls... This got to the point where she was inventing things from temper tantrums to Asthma to mental health illnesses (they were referred to a chlld mental health clinic).
Mummy also told the girls that Daddy was being nasty and scary because he was taking her to court and therefore scaring them - parental alienation at its best (or worst?)
It got to the point where I backed off and let the girls grow up, sending regular letters and hoping for contact, which has been a bit more forthcoming, being initiated by my youngest (Mummy's favourite is my eldest..)
They are both teenagers now.
The latest issue is that my ex has now moved house and not let me know where she has moved to. This along with choosing a different school without telling me goes against what I believe my parental rights cover.
I do actually know the new address, however not sure how to proceed - any ideas please?
Yaxcamel
Hi Louise,
Many thanks for your thoughts. Yes it has been a difficult time (and so it continues!). It goes against my first thoughts, but I will continue to wait. There has been way too much animosity affecting the girls from my ex - although I will continue to miss their childhood, I hope to renew my relationship with them once they are older.
The new address - its not that far from where they used to live and my ex has the same car......
I'll continue to use the old address for now - I know that mail is being collected. Its not as if they've left the county or country!
I appreciate that the site is set up for parents with care and thank you for your time.
Hi Louise,
sorry - posting got added twice!
Good luck with things Yaxcamel. Its incredibly hard for you facing this.
Hello Yaxcamel
Things have been very hard for you, losing contact with your children and of course once they are 16 then they are not subject to any contact order. What you are trying to achieve, therefore, is to maintain contact with your daughters, infuriating as it may be that decisions about schools and house moves are made without involving you. My own thought would be to keep writing to the girls, at the new address (how do you know this if she has not informed you?) Are the girls on Facebook? or maybe you could ask for their mobile numbers. I think all you can do is keep the door open.
Of course you may wish to address things from a more confrontational point of view and if you are considering this then some legal advice would be good. We have a legal expert on here. The service is funded for the parent with day to day care so we ask that parents without residence just ask one legal question here, or if you want a fuller debate, find a local legal adviser here.