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I have a 9week old baby and I have had to leave his farther due to him being abusive but he wants access but I'm scared that he will continue to be abusive with my baby I don't know what to do
So sorry you have to go through this...was he abusive towards you Or you and the baby as well ? Do you have any evidence recorded by your GP or police or social work ? has anyone seen him do it ?
Womens Aid is very helpful 08082000247 also Rights of Women rightsofwomen.org.uk
also Justice4mothers. On the left side of this page you can also click on ask the expert with legal advice and domestic violence but it will take a few days to get a response.
Please keep in touch if you have more questions as a lot of people on here will support you and will be able to give advice
Try to gather as much evidence as possible
You might like to do the Freedom Programme on here it is so helpful to understand the mechanics of it and as you get a certificate afterwards you can show professionals you are trying to understand it and work with it
Thank you for the advise I had informed the police when the first incident happened when baby was only 3weeks old and he shouted in his face and then just got abusive with me I have got slot of evidence via texts and voicemail too as he would send me nasty voicemails when he was out drinking he is alcohol dependant aswell I will definately ring woman's aid I have herd they are great
Hi bizzlizzy89,
both Bubblegum and Skyflower have already given you the best advice: get legal advice and keep calling the police if you think you or the baby might be at risk.
As Skyflower has said, Womansaid are brilliant in a crisis, they really are there for you and will give you much positive and practical advice. Please contact them, you really are not alone in this and there are many people out there who are there to support you and help you.
And whatever you do, keep an accurate account of every incident, every time, write it down so you don't forget, you will need all the evidence you can get to get this guy off your life.
Your safety and that of your child come first. Both the Police and Social Service are under obligation to help you, so make sure you get in touch. I would start with Womansaid, as they will guide you through the next steps!
Let us know how you get on with them!
Well done you how have you been today ? Are you safe where you live now and did you manage to call Woman's Aid ?
Hope you are OK, bizzylizzy89
Women's Aid can find you some safe, sheltered accommodation if necessary, so do contact them.
Hello!
Get a solicitor, first thing tomorow.
: )
If in the meantime something happens, he calls you, threatens you or what ever, something that makes you feel in anyway threatened or uncomfortable then call the police, otherwise wait untill tomorrow and contact your solicitor.
Take care.
You don't have to feel scared.
: )