lopa mayank mehta

hi, iam a married woman age 36. ihave one sister age 38. ilost my mother just after only 2 days i was born. at that time i had my grand mother ,grand father, aunty(dads sister) uncle. we are not rich . my father lost their job. and then he had some bad habits.my aunty and uncle dont getting marriage because me and my sister. they ruined their  whole life till today for both of us. bagging from the people we both studdied. getting married. iamm a house wife and my sister is a pharmasist. afte we got married they started financial problems . my sister has one daughter age only 2 yrs. my sister give some about her earning th em but her husband dont like it .againts it my aunty age 58 spend aii the time to grow her child. then also her husband start fighting always blaim her and our aunty uncle. my uncle work with my husband age 60 far almost 12 to 13hours.  so tell me now what is there no law for us who dont have any support (no brother) or any one else in family to feed  the them. they spend whole life for us and whenits our time to protect them we are helpless because weare married to other people. in laws dont like it so where all the daughters go who dont have other option? let our parents die without eating? there must be some law that after getting married daughter should have right to feed their parents with  her salary because son have right to do this daughter_in_law forced to do this  so why daughters dont have this right? i want answer from all the daughters who have a same problem that i face. 

Posted on: April 7, 2011 - 6:58am
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello lopa mayank mehta

I just wanted to say Hi to you. This site is to help and support single parents, who are bringing up their children alone. From your post I think that your situation seems a different one and you want to discuss responsibility towards older members of your family? Also I would like to ask if you are currently living in the Uk as things will be different as a matter of culture in different countries. As to how money is spent and organised within a family, that seems to be a matter for the individual family and there are no real "laws" about it in the UK.

Posted on: April 7, 2011 - 7:50am

lopa mayank mehta

hi louise iam lopa i under stand your point this is about single parenting but for those who does not have mother father is not able to feed their family. its ok no   problem and iam from india. i just open your site andmy feelings comes out. thanks for your reply. and if you have any indian link to share my thoughts plese let me know. have a nice day. thank you.

 

Posted on: April 7, 2011 - 8:53am

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi lopa

I don't have a link that is known to me at the moment but I will have a look on the Internet later today. It sounds as if your aunty and uncle have been like parents to you and your sister, and need to be treated with respect and looked after, as they gave up so much for you both.

Posted on: April 7, 2011 - 9:02am

Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi lopa

I am glad that you found a place where you can share your feelings, I have found one link that may be useful for you. And some other organisations in Mumbai. However I am unsure whether the telephone numbers are current, apologies if they are not:

YWCA of Bombay - AASARA - A place for women to drop-in, talk, listen & share their problems.

Family Service Center

Women in Distress/ Child adoption

 

22828862/22021432

Women's Center

Women in Distress

 

26140403

Bapnu Ghar

Women in Distress

 

24924252

Stree Adar Kendra

Women in Distress

 

24225748

Posted on: April 7, 2011 - 1:01pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Thanks Anna, I have been out all day so did not have chance to search before I went

Posted on: April 7, 2011 - 6:11pm

Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

You are very welcome Louise! Kiss

Posted on: April 8, 2011 - 10:23am