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My ex has taken my dd he's telling me i'm unfit mother and he has the right to take her from me without a court order or anything- called the police they can't do anything - will have to go to solicitor in the morning. feeling rubbish.
Oh goodness english rose, that is awful. Good luck at the solicitor. Hopefully you will be able to take out an action that forces the return of your daughter. As Tinkerbell says, there needs to be pretty extreme grounds for saying you are an unfit parent.. Let us know how you get on, will be thinking of you.
englsihrose, I'm so sorry. I really hope the solicitor can help you today.
we don't have any court orders or residence orders - we both have parental responsibility. up to now he was happy with seeing her on sunday afternoon, I knew he would try to get a contact order to increase his time with her - but he caught me by surprise. i dropped her off at 2 pm and he handed me a letter saying read this when you get home. the letter said he was taking full custody of her as of yesterday and that i should take round all her belongings at 5pm. i went round at 5 with my church pastor and no belongings. i said i want you to give her back he refused giving a load of lies about me being an unfit mother, i said i would return with a few basics like her medication. on returning on my own i asked to say good night to dd then when she was in my arms i tried to take her to my car, ex-h pulled her out of my arms and his ex-girlfriend grabbed my arms and pulled me away, i was sobbing and saying she lives with me i'm her mother. ex-h is accusing me of assault because i was trying to get dd out of his arms after he pulled her out of my arms. i have been told he will go to police and accuse me of assault. i know it was not the best thing to do but i was desperate i just wanted my dd it was my natural instinct.
later on i contacted social services and they said ask police to do a welfare check, so i rang police and they did do a welfare check. i have heard that dd was ok and deemed safe so was left with dad.
got a solicitor appt at 2pm today. will update later. thanks all for your support.x
Hi englishrose, thinking of you and look forward to hearing how it went with the solicitors.
Where is your ex living now? Does he still have the fiancee? who is the ex girlfriend?
Been thinking of you all day...
Sorry to say but he's a d***- some fathers see their child as a trophy but they are human & have feelings too- has he thought how this is affecting poor DD! His ex or gf should mind her own business ! I'm sure after having her for a little while he will realise how hard being a full time parent is & the courts would agree a child needs their mother- get a parental order this will stop him taking her in the future as it will be kidnap- if he can't prove your a unfit mother, snatching DD will go against him by the sounds of it he is using your child against you to hurt you- wish u all the luck in the world xx
Hi englishrose. Thinking of you and hoping the solicitor was able to help. It was a natural reaction for you to pull your daughter from out of his arms, I would have done exactly what you did. Please let us know how you got on today.
hi, solicitor very helpful, has got me an emergency court hearing tomorrow at 10am got to be in court at 9.30 to meet solicitor, she is very hopeful that the judge will order ex to give the dd back to me. The next step is to get proper contact order / residence order which i'm told could take months cause it has to be referred to CAFCASS.
sorry if post was confusing I was in a bit of a state..its so hard when we can't use names so from now on i'll give them nicknames so it makes a bit more sense, I will refer to my ex-h as RAT cause he leaves a nasty smell in the air, and his ex-fiancee who i sometimes refer to as ex-girlfriend sorry for confusion i will now refer to her as MOLE because she pops her head up where its not wanted ha ha rather like that.
Anna - RAT still lives in the two bed flat with MOLE but MOLE has a new bf.
Englishrose - hope all goes well tomorrow and try to get an early night tonight if you can.
I'm not surprised you were in a state...
xx
I have The Git and Gittess...
englishrose how horrible for you hope all goes well today thinking of you xx
Hi englishrose
How did it go in court today? Hope it went well.
Hi englishrose, we are all rooting for you here, I hope that you have your daughter safely at home with you now.
Thank you for your explanation regarding ex and his circumstances, it sounds as though you feel those names are very apt! It also sounds as though his accommodation might well be unstable, if she now has a new boyfriend.
Thinking of you, wishing you luck
I love the names englishrose.
How did the court go? I do hope you and daughter are back together again.
Hi all, thank you all for your wishes and support, yes i have her back!! i have an interim resident order. sorry didn't update yesterday - picked her up at 4 the RAT and the MOLE had a real go at me but i kept my cool, took my pastor with me as thought it would be good idea to have a witness and support. then dd and i went to sainsbury's and had a treat in the cafe - juice and fruit salad - poor thing has so many allergies it's the only thing she can have from there - but she enjoyed it, she closed her eyes while eating her fruit and melon juice dripped down her chin - I knew she was enjoying it!! DD tells me she was sick in the toilet at RAT's yesterday but RAT told me at 4 that everything was ok. i texted RAT and said has she been sick? RAT replied "yeah and that is ur fault as u took this through court today and the fact that she was scared to come back to u."
What utter tosh!! She is very happy to be at home and we had lots of cuddles and dancing round the living room !!
Hi englishrose, how fab that she is back home, and you have the legal procedure in place. Hopefully it put the wind up her father seeing what the consequences were of their actions 
Fantastic news englishrose! I am so pleased to hear that your lovely girl is home and safe, I hope that you continue to treat yourselves to lots of lovely nice things after the ordeal you have both been through.
So what are your plans for the week?
Well done englishrose. So pleased for you that she is home. Continue to enjoy your treats together, and dancing of course
Thank goodnes..
Great news to hear she is home safe and sound again and dancing away, so what are you up too this weekend?
Hello, thanks for all your lovely comments and support, on Saturday we did our usual thing - a local playground then round the shops. On Sunday dropped her off at 2 at the RATs. Arrived at 5 but had to wait until 5.15 as he was locked in !!! MOLE had taken both sets of keys when going out and left him locked in, so at 5 he was phoning to try and get the keys, MOLEs new boyfriend appeared with the key. In court RATs solicitor said that RAT and MOLE were in a good stable relationship, what a joke. I hope these lies will get found out, but what if they are not and he manages to get overnight access? RAT told his solicitor that the only people living in his flat are RAT and MOLE but I'm pretty certain there is RAT, MOLE, MOLEs b/f and MOLES step sister. My DD has told me that MOLES stepsister has a sleeping bag.
Hope you all had a good weekend?
bye for nowxxx
Hi englishrose, glad that you were able to keep a bit of normality for your daughter on Saturday.
It seems a bit odd that your ex and his ex do not have separate keys! Or that she should take both of them! In regards to the step sister, perhaps she was just staying for the weekend!
Do you go in the house, or is the handover on the doorstep? How was your daughter when you got home.
I'm pretty certain that MOLES step-sister lives there as she used to live in MOLES old room when MOLE moved in with RAT in his old room, then when MOLE and RAT moved out of their two old rooms into the two bed-flat the step-sister came too, she has been there every time I've dropped DD off at RAT's.
I haven't been inside RATs since Boxing Day and that was only because RAT asked me to collect the new toys to take home.
I usually wait in the car until RAT brings DD down the path.
DD did have questions when going home and I tried my best to explain things in a way she would be able to understand.
Hi englishrose, I am sure you did really well explaining to your daughter, all that you could, in the circumstances.
Well done 
Do you still have snow??
Do u have guardianship? If so and it isn't joint then no he can't take DD but if u have joint guardianship then you both have joint rights! I hope everything works out ok- he needs pretty good reason to claim your an unfit mother if it went to court- best of luck