Hi all I'm new to this site and am feeling very lonely and confussed!! I have been with my partner for 4 yrs and l believed everything was amazing with us. We should have been getting married in 3 weeks but out of the blue he said he didn't love me anymore!!! I has 2 children from a precious marriage and he has a son from a past marriage. I have know him for over 15 yrs (we dated at sch b4 going our separate ways). I'm so confussed about what I do with regards to housing and finances I really don't know where to start to get help!! Sorry to go on!!
Hello Sarahann77
You are welcome here. Paulch is right, you need to keep believing in yourself. Make sure you have a a good friend or family member to talk to.
Here is a list of things to think about as you become a new single parent. Sorry it’s a list but it feels more practical to do it this way.
1. Housing. Can you stay living where you are, can you put the accommodation into your sole name? Can you afford to stay there?
2. Money, what will you live on? Are you getting all the benefits you are entitled to? Check out the money situation with our link to Citizen’s Advice specialists, click here. Are you working? Do you need to work? For queries about child support, click here.
3. Legal Advice. Worth getting, even if you are not married to you ex partner, click here to access our advice about particular problems and if you need a local solicitor, see here
4. Children, what will they be told? Will they see your ex? If you have trouble establishing an agreement, email our Relationships specialist here.
dont worry i know that it feels like the world has just fell in im there as well but you need to focus on what you have achieved and what else you can do in your life.you feel like you have no one and when you speak to people the pain in your stomach is intense and sick but you are a good person and you will move on from this feeling.I cried to my wife begged her to stop but she was loving it.so i wiped away the tears and thought i need to be strong for my family and keep focused on there and my needs.you have got us lot on here .take care