Hi,my name is Kinga and I'm mum of two lovely girls age 2 and 4.Not long time ago because only 3 weeks ago I was sure I have happy family,but two weeks ago my partner after 3 years being together said me he is not happy with me and leaving.I still don't understand what happen to him but I am trying move on and enjoy my life because kids need me.
Just sometimes I have bad day and don't know how to deal with that situation.I think I need more time to forgot how me ex hurt me.
Hi Kiniusia
Welcome along to One Space
This is going to be a difficult time for you and luckily you have come along to One Space. Everyone on here are really supportive and would probably have gone through a relationship break up!
As Hazeleyes has already said it is early day's and your probably still trying to get your head around why this has happened so suddenly and getting over him is going to take time.
Do let us know if there is anything specfic that you want support with and we will try to help, or if you just want to rant n rave about your ex thats fine too.
It's great that you are trying to be strong for your children, but do you have some support for you?
Thanks for answer for my post.It is nice to see you not alone when your life is going down.My ex is only father of my youngest child but he was like dad for the oldest one and now he said he gonna see his child but don't know what to do with other one.I soo sad because Julia(my oldest) really loves him and they been best friend for 3 years.Now she is only 5 years old and it is hard to explain her all and little one is just 2 years old.
Sally thanks for ask do I have support,the true is I feel really alone.My sister live close too me but in week she is due to have a baby and I don't want bother her too much.My all friend busy with them life.My ex partner family is really nice,his mum called me few time,his sisters talk with me on the facebook but they live far away(2 hours by car)and because I'm not driving is hard to go and see them.
It is really hard time for me at the moment but I hope soon my life look better.I'm studying with The Open University and that keep me busy and kids of course.
You must be really busy what with studying and two youngsters. It's great that your ex's family are still in touch with you. It is such a shame that he doesn't want to see your eldest, but that is his choice, unfair as it seems, especially as it's hard to explain it to her. Does she not see her biological father? Perhaps in time, when the dust settles, your ex may agree to see the eldest too.
She see her father but when little will be go to my ex i need explain her why she can't go.I'm just worry if i manage talk to her.
So she doesn't see her biological father now then? Hopefully someone will be along that can maybe suggest a way of explaining things to her, in a way that she can understand. Very difficult for you.
Hi kiniusia, welcome. Sorry to hear about your recent break up, it can be painfull but glad to hear you're keeping busy though, and that you still manage tohave a relationship with your ex's family, and that you atleast have some support from your sister. Hope it goes well for her.
iv been separated for 3yrs, im mum to 3 children, well i cant really call my first 2 children they are in their 20's my youngest is 12.
The pain will get easier though, its still early days. stay strong there is light at the end the tunnel!!!!
I can't believe how better I feel now when I read all the comments.I don't feel that alone.I think my problem is I have not many friend because me and my ex-partner didn't have really any social life.That is the first thing what I want change in my life,I want have a friends,talk to people.
Hello kiniusia
Welcome to One Space, there is always a friendly ear here. It's good to get to know more people near where you live as well. Read our srticle Making New Friends (click on blue link) for some tips and ideas.
What are you studying?
Thanks Luise for that link.I really need some friends now.I'm studying mathematics and that really keep me busy but sometimes is too hard for me sit with books and concentrate because I have too much things in my head now.
Maths.......ooh that is hard! Do use some of the ideas in the article, but we are always here for you too
Well today I'm going have haircut,I never really care about myself special after when my kids been born.I want to do something for myself.Before I had this partner and when I was in Poland(that country when I come from) I always was going out,had lots of friends and never felt alone.I think now is time to remember even you have partner and kids you must never forgot about what is good for yourself too.When I was with my partner I was typical housewife-cooking,washing,ironing and he was saying if I don't want I don't need to do that but he never helped me.Now I still need to do everything but now I can to do something what make me happy.
Only what make me sad now is I have nobody to share my life but my friend told me few days ago "Kinga you only 29 years old you still have all life,just enjoy".I still believe one day I find somebody for me and kids and nobody hurts me any more.
Hi kiniusia
I am glad to hear that you are doing something good for yourself, your are so right in that we should not forget to do these things for ourselves, we get bogged down with looking after everyone else and our needs often get sidelined.
Being a single parent can be a lonely, but a good positive mental attitude can work wonders, your friends right enjoy what you have, and i am glad that you still believe that there is someone out there for you, so recently after breaking up, we can tend to be rather cynical.
What did you have done to your hair?
What I did with hair?Funny because long time ago I always had short hair and only now they a little longer because my ex-partner didn't want me cut them.That why today I cut them again short.It is only me who decide about my life.I feel just great now
Yes that's right, you can make all the decisions now
Hi Kinga. Welcome along. This has obviously come as a shock to you, with your partner announcing it like he did, and then simply leaving. Not knowing the reason behind it can be extremely difficult to deal with. I'm sorry that you're going through this. Please keep posting as others will be along, and we can all offer you some support. It's great that you're trying to move on for yourself and your children, but it's such early days, and it's going to take time to get your head around it all. How are the children? Does your partner still have contact with them?