hello i am totally new on here...but already can say it is just great :)just what i habe been looking for
Hello Aga85
First of all you are welcome to One Space.
To check the legal position about taking your son abroad, please ask our Legal Expert (click on the blue link to email her) Let us know how you get on.
It sounds as if, even though you have separated from him, your son's dad is still trying to control you. One thing that would really help is if you increase your confidence and deal with the abuse you have suffered. Have a look at our online Freedom Programme, which is a brilliant course to help you.
How are you coping day to day at the moment? Are you living independently now or still staying with your friend?
thank you Louise ,
i have been living now independently for 8 months now. i am getting better and stronger. just the fact that my ex is not around makes me happy ...although i still have to deal with his insecuriities and abusive words sometimes.he wants me back. he doesnt accept the fact that i moved one and i am happy now. he says that he will never aloud me to be with anyone else.it is him or noone (as he says). i have never done anything about that. i think i am strong enough to handle it ...or maybe not. still he has got so much infuance on how i feel generally , how i feel about myself although we separated in june last year.
our son is 2 and he is the hapiest boy inthe world :).he is everything to me. and so far i am happy for making my decision about living his dad. i know that if i hadnt left him my son would have become the same as his dad. my ex didnt care about teh fact that all our arguing and his horrible words and everything else was in fron of our son.
i have become more codfident, happier and i am definitely healthier:)
I am so glad to hear that you and your son are settled 
Do contact the Legal Expert, and do have a look at the Freedom Programme and tell us what you think.
Hi Aga85, the things that your ex is saying is so completely typical of an abusive person ie: He will never allow you to be with anyone else etc.
Please do give our Freedom Programme a go, or find out if there is a local one near you. As this will give you a hand with recognising when he is being abusive and how to protect yourself - as the author of the programme says, You can put on your bullet proof vest - this means that you will be able to protect yourself from the negative things he says.
Look forward to getting to know you
thank you Anna ...i will definitely give it a go :)
maybe someone could help me out with my situation....
i separeted from my partner a in june last year. i had to run away with my 10 months(at the time) old baby from horrible horriblr person. he was pysically/emotionally / mentally abusing me. i ran away to my friend's house.she offered me her help.i could stay there till i stand on my feet. after 2 weeks he insisted of seeing our child ,and i said yes. from then on he takes our son every other weekend.
on the 9th of august i am going on holiday with my son.i told my ex about it yesterday. he started to threatening me ...and he is convinced that i have no right to go on holiday with my son abroad. i dont know the law and my rights, what i can do as a single mum and what can not. is anyone able to tell me how does it looks like from the law side ?
i would be greatfull for any help