Hi everyone
Thought I had done this intro before but think I have posted my intro as a comment to someone else's post. Not a good start, just finding my way around this site.
I am a single parent with a 13yr old daughter. In truth have been single parent since she was a baby just made decision to split from hubby. He not happy .We have only lived together for 6 months in out 15 yr marriage. It's complicated and probably strange....to some. Just need to feel other single parents out there as I am feeling so isolated at moment. My friends are very supportive but all in relationship/happy family situation if you know what I mean?
Anyway that is it for now just wanted to introduce myself .
Hi Christian
You are welcome to One Space and hope you soon feel Ok navigating round the site. Whatever your situation, if you are parenting alone we can share experiences and support each other. Does your daughter see her dad regularly?
There is lots of friendly chat here so I do hope that you will enjoy the experience and make some new online friends 
What are you up to this weekend?
Hi Everyone
This is my first time on this site, but here goes. Really feel isolated and need to sound off. Have very supportive friends but all in a relationship/happy family situation, feel I need to be in touch with other single parents...if that makes sense.
My story may sound strange/unusual perhaps not. Married for 15 years but only lived with hubby for 6 months in total....it's complicated. He is Chinese I am English. We have a 13 yr old daughter who I have bought up on my own from baby. So in effect have been single parent all of her life. My hubby and I have had a rocky marriage and I have finally made decision to split he is not happy. This may sound weird but it has hit me really hard now that I am a single parent even though in effect I have been for 13 yrs.
Have left a big chunk out of my story for now.Worried that hubby mightfind way onto this sight. He would know as soon as he saw it that it was us if I wrote the whole thing.
Sorry to sound a bitvague. Thanks for listening, don't if anyone willI understand me. Feel life the only one in the world with this isolation at mo.
Ah Christian I have found your original post and moved it here too
Ee thanks Louise, what am I like! Thanks for that. Was in middle of responding to you bit got distracted by daughter. She has been in swimming competition today, and was ready to go home . So not sure what happened to that post:(
Anyway in answer to you question what are you doing this weekend.Supporting my daughter at swimming competition both today and tomorrow. Out with dog at moment:) What about you, what r u up to?
Hi Christian
Good luck to your daughter with her swimming (I love swimming)
I have had a load of accounts to do this weekend but have DONE THEM and feel very relieved.
I hope that you know that you are not alone, and that you now belong to this online community of single parents
Hi Louise
I am laughing as I read your post, when you say you have had accounts to do this weekend. I know how you feel, I am an Accountant and glad not to be doing accounts this weekend:) Will leave thatI until tomorrow.
Now at swimming pool, waiting for session to start, daughers race is in about 3 hrs...:( I normally go for a run this time on a Sunday morning and missing it!
Sitting here contemplating next weekend as hubby coming to see daughter, which is the first time he has seen her since I told her of our split. He lives 300 miles away. He is coming up for 4 days...Planning in my head how to handle it. Going to an all day 50th party on Saturday so they can have time alone, as to rest of time????
Hi hazeleyes
Hope you are well. Have you been a member of this website for long?
In answer to your question, my daughter is not talking to me about the split, I have tried on a few occasions to talk about it but I can tell she is not comfortable with it and she changed the topic. I made the huge mistake of looking at her diary the other day which I know was very wrong but was desperate to know how she felt. She is really upset about it all and feels isolated as an only child. I really don't know what to do except of course will never read her diary again!!!!!
I am taking her out for a meal later on today which is something we like to do together, and hope she may open up a little then
Hi Christian, you will have to come and help me with the accounts next time!
Will your daughter's dad be staying at your house when he comes?
Hopefully your daughter will talk to you but sometimes they need to speak to someone outside the family, there may be a counsellor at school or your can try Relate.
Hope the swimming went ok
Hi Christian. Hopefully your daughter will open up to you. She probably feels confused and stuff, and maybe when she's ready, she'll chat. How did the swimming go?
I've been a member for nearly three years now. Am sure it's three and not two!! Time flies when you're having fun 
I've been single since I was pregnant, and my son is now 9. The father doesn't have anything to do with C, but C has never known any different, so though at times it is hard on him, he is 'used' to it. This group has been a terrific support for me, and I've had a lot of advice over different issues. I'm certainly prepared for the teen years eek!!!
The all day party sounds lovely, so now you just have to organise something for Sunday. Any ideas yet?
I hope you had a lovely meal out.
Hi Louise
Glad to hear you have your accounts up to date:-)
Hubby will be staying with us when he comes. I may stay at my friends house on Saturday evening (night of the 50th party) as long as my daughter is happy with this. I have to say she has quite a good relationship with her dad which is good so I imagine she will be fine with me staying away for 1 night.
Just need to decide about Sunday and Monday. Have toyed with the idea of the 3 of us going out for a meal together just to show our girl that we are united as far as her well being is concerned. But on the other hand don't want to confuse her. What do you think?
Swimming went quite well, she did 200m IM and came third in her heat achieving a personal best in terms of time
Hi Christian, welcome from me Brilliant news about your daughters swimming achievements!
I am sorry to hear about your break up although it sounds as though it was long time coming. I hope you settle in here quickly
I think it is really good if we can show our children that although 'we' are not together, we still love you etc etc, however this is not always easy to acheive. Are you and your ex on speaking terms? Will it be an amicable split?
How about asking your daughter what she thinks this evening when you go out for your meal? She might find it a bit weird or she might be cool with it.
I hope you have a good evening together.
Hi everyone
He is comIng back today ... eek.
Tomorrow I am working in morning then doing a shift of voluntery work in the afternoon, that will gives him some time alone with J, my daughter. In the evening J off to swimming club so we will be alone together, where we are going to discuss finances etc hopefully in an amicable fashion!!!
Saturday sorted, starting with a run, prayer breakfast at our church, home to get ready then off to my friends 50th party. So again Dad and J will have time together. Sunday I think we will be altogether and we planning to go out for lunch, J still wants us to have family time together. So I hope that goes okay. Then Monday???? I think I need to pray for all this at the prayer breakfast on Saturday :)
Hope it all goes well, Christian
| Thanks Louise |
Hi Christian
I too am worried my ex will find me on her or his evil 'new' 'wife' and friends they have hunted me on twitter, hacked my FB and email.
So if i suddenly start writting anything strange they have found me again. I have to police involved now so hopefully it will stop. However I feel strangley carm on here and only found the site yesterday after years of looking for something like this.
I think we all have a lot to offer each other and sure we ahve all been though bad times - me im trying to put it all behind me and move on - i know it wont happen over night but this place is my new home
love and hugs to you all x
Hi Happy Mamma
Urgh your ex, evil wife, and her friends sound like a bunch of saddos. That indicates your ex and ex wife's level of happiness! If they were happy they wouldnt stalk you and move on with their lives as you have. You are well rid of him.
Glad you have found this site:)xx
Thanks Christian thats exactly what I said about them - they also give constant abuse to her ex husband and partner by text.
I didnt get on here last night I was too busy celebrating the fact one of my 'stalkers' is being evicted!
Get in there girl, brilliant:)xx
happy mamma what are the police doing to support you with the stalking online?
Hi Christain hope your weekend with your ex and daughter goes well, and enjoy your friends party
@ Sally W they have been great the wpc called in to see me Wed night as she was worried about the state i was in when she 1st came round - she is going to contact victim support - one half of the stalking team have got an eviction notice so in a few weeks they will be gone but it how far they are being moved?
Im still really scared they will pop up on here
Hi happy mamma, there are a lot of people on these boards and also some people say that they are tricky to navigate - so the cahnces of them reading everybody's story and then finding you, is pretty unlikely, however these boards are public, so just be cautious.
Although interestingly your story is not that different to many others, so they could pick any one of us and think it is you!!
It sounds that you are still living with a lot of fear in your body. I hope that you find something relaxing so that you can unwind this bank holiday??
Hi Happy Mamma
Take one day at a time, you are better than these people. Don 't let them ruin your weekend. Think positively one of these stalkes iis being evicted:) The world is on your side.
Xxxx
Hello Christian, have you got the weekend off from your accounting? (I know you have a lenient boss 
) Hope you have a few nice days, is your friend having a party tonight for her birthday, what did you buy as a prezzie? When I was 50, two friends clubbed together and got us all a box at the opera, which was one of the things on my bucket list
Hi happymamma, the main points about staying safe on a public site are not to mention children's names or your location and not to have a username that you have used before (that other people may know about), other than that,it is fairly unlikely. That is good news that one stalker is being evicted and I am glad the police have been supportive. Continue to keep a record of texts and incidents in case this is needed in future but please try not to let it overshadow your life What are you up to this weekend?...ooh I have just read about the spa day: enjoy!
Just back from a facial my daughter booked for me Im so relaxed as inclusded and nech and shoulder massage and gave me some really good advice on helping me sleep and relaxing so im off to but some lavender oil - feeling motivated today which i have not done for a long time im just hoping it lasts. 
Thats brilliant Happy Mamma! Enjoy the rest of your day and chill:)
I am proper buzzing today, been for a run this morning. Then attended a prayer breakfast. Which was immense , appart from in the middle of prayer ( we had been in prayer for about 15Mins) someone tapped me on shoulder and said I think your mp3 player is on. Yes it was cringe I hadn't heard but everyone else had..lol
Anyway feeling gr8 after that and now getting ready for my friends party.
Hubby and daughter out together , things not to bad...
Glad your day is going well.
That's nice that you are both having some good times
Hi Christian, did you go for 'the meal'?
Hi Anna
Yes, went out for both the meal with my Daughter, J, last weekend and then the 3 of us went out together for a meal Sunday just gone.
Both went fine, although didn't get anything out of J, re: her feelings about the split. But we did have a lovely time. I feel it is important to have our quality time together.
The meal with the 3 of us was nice, I am glad that my ex and I can do this. Want to show her that we are very much together in terms of our daughter . I want her to see us with a united front in that respect and don't want to end up in situation where she thinks she can play one parent off against the other! My ex and I have agreed on this one which is a relief.
He has gone back home now which I relieved about and we all survived the long weekend together:)
Did you have a good weekend, Anna?
That sounds excellent, good for you Christian
J will speak when she is ready, but it sounds as though, it has gone pretty smoothly for her.
I had a nice weekend thank you, can't believe how quickly it has gone tho 
What did you get your friend for her 50th in the end?
Hello Christian, welcome along. Sorry to hear you've recently split from your hubby, but you obviously had your reasons, whether he's happy or not. You've got to do what is best for you and your daughter. How is she handling things? Look forward to 'chatting'. x