Hi im new to this sight just wanted to see if theres anyone out there who is ether in the same situation as me or who is happy to give some advice?
Im a single mother with two beautiful children a daughter whos 4 and a son whos 10 months. Both my kids are epileptic and also me aswell, my daughters father is no longer with us, he died when i was 4 months pregnant and my sons dad doesnt see my son because he hit me about and i dont think hes fit be be in my sons life. I have given him so many options to go to contact centers and he refused them everytime saying he cant affored to go he doesnt pay matenence and his name isnt on the birth certificate.
I want my son to see his dad but i need oit to be in a safe and sercure enviroment where i wount be involved i feel contact centers is my only option at the moment until i know he can cope with his son.
Hi kirstysam78 and welcome to One Space from me too 
I am sorry to hear of your loss when you were pregnant, that must have been a terrible time. And then for your sons father to be abusive must have been so difficult.
I do hope that you have the support of your family and friends?
As hazeleyes says, we can not force an absent parent to see their child, that is their responsibility, however much we want it for our children.
I notice that in one sentence you say that you do not think your sons father is fit to be in your son's life, but in the next sentence you say that you want your son to see his dad.
I am wondering whether you are wishing that your son could have the lovely relationship with his father that we all want for and are believing that if he saw him at a contact centre this would happen?
Personally I feel that if your ex is not a good influence then it might be a blessing in disguise that he is not in your sons life currently. I have too many friends and known too many people who have pushed for contact and then their children have had to live and learn how to deal with an abusive father.
Does your ex ask to see your son?
Hi Kirsty, Welsome to the Forum
Hi kirsty. Welcome along. I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter's dad. As for your son's dad, unfortunately we cannot make the fathers see their children. Their loss I always say. I've answered you on your other thread, regarding maintenance. Like I've said on there, it doesn't matter whether he's on the birth certificate or not.