hi im new to the site just having a look around on the site i have a 2 year old son who is starting to be really boystros hitting other children and having temper tantrums have anyone got any suggestions as im a lone parent and i do need to start setting boundaries
Hi Luckeeluca
I second the idea of running around outside! My two were always much better once we had done that.
I had to be very consistent with my eldest when he was two. I basically had no life - he took all my energy. But when I dropped him off for his first day at school I felt really proud of myself. It's worth putting in all the work at that age as it really does pay dividends later. Not that I can rest on my laurels now but it's a million times better.
I'm a huge fan of self help books - my friend just gave me a CD called 123 Magic which she says is good. I personally really enjoyed the book "Toddler Taming" by Dr Christopher Green. I recommend it because it is so practical and really spells out what we can expect and what happens when our expectations of our toddlers are too high.
The main thing (and hardest thing) is to stay calm. I managed that quite well but only because I think I was depressed. It definitely helped a lot though to be calm. I'm not like that now :-)
Gem
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Hi Luckeeluca, I DO love the name, BTW!
Yes, fresh air and play outside, lots of it! I remember 'Toddler taming', a long time ago for me, but it was good book! It was hard to keep up with it, it's not easy to be firm, patient, not raising your voice, not losing your temper with a 2 year old that is REALLY trying to have it her way!
Stay calm, stick to your guns, NEVER change your mind! If you said no, it needs to stay no, no matter how embarrassing and hard. ( I still remember the supermarket tantrums...)
I found that play always worked better than shouting. After all what they are after is attention, and they can have it in a positive way with playing and running around and being listened to, or a negative way by being shouted at!
As Goodenoughmum says, stay calm!
thanx guys im guna try n take him out to run around and i read that book thanx for advice x
Morning luckeeluca, how are you this morning? How was your weekend? Were you able keep calm and put some boundaries in place? Parenting is a day to day test/experience, have you considered doing a parenting programme?
Off the top of my head, I'd say nothing to be afraid of, it's just a normal phase your child is going through, checking how far he can push his limits, but be alert to anything that's new and/or potentially threatening in his life (from his point of view) and he is, thus, reflecting the behaviour that's being projected to him.
You'll come out of this bright and shiny, don't worry. Just devote quality time to your child on a daily basis, and try not to lose your connection with him, that is try to understand where his thoughts and actions stem from.
Be well.
Nice post, thank you Xaroula 
Hi luckeeluca and welcome to One Space
Thanks for introducing yourself, it sounds as though your little boy is beginning to learn about how much power he has and now is your time to show him what you will accept and what you won't! Not always easy I know, but definitely worth it at this young age.
When setting boundaries, never raise your voice. Decide on one or two things that you really will not allow and then when the behaviour arises: calmly yet firmly take him to one side, get down to his eye level and tell him it is not ok for him to behave like that. By lowering the tone of your voice and also lowering the volume, will really makes him stop in his tracks and take note of what you are saying.
Are you able to get him out and about daily to the park so that he can run around and exhaust himself?