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Hi everyone I need help.
my boyfriend has live with me for 18 months, not paid a penny towards anything yet thinks he can be physically and verbally abusive to me. I have had him arrested and he got a caution. He has since said he would change and I stupidly took him back. He has nowhere to live and I feel used he again shouted verbal abuse at me down the street. I have told him to leave but he keeps coming back. I daren't lock the door properley or change locks as I know he will smash it in. I can't afford to pay for a new door and frame. I only rent the house yet he has smashed all my stuff and even smashed windows and the stair case in the house. All he says is its not your house I have smashed. But it's my bond I lose. I spoke to the local council about domestic violent help and they are not interested. I don't know what to do and feel in fear all the time. He is an alcoholic and works in a pub. He is getting worse after promising he will get help. I am the one who needs help because of his anger. He won't leave me, thinks as soon as he leaves I will get someone else so said he won't go. Can I get the police involved (I don't like too) to remove him especially as he has a caution after the last time it all kicked ofI. My body was covered in bruises and the police came and took photos of them.
Hi Kpridmore
I'm so sorry to hear of what you are going through it sounds dreadful. I don't have any experience or knowledge about this sort of thing but I am sure someone will post soon.
How old are your children? Your priority must be to get away yourself away from him and protect you and the children.
On here they are always mentioning Women's Aid. A google search has revealed they have a 24 hour free helpline - 0808 2000 247.
I'm sorry the council was not supportive -try ringing Women's Aid if you can.
Good luck
Gem
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hi hun well i no what tht is like, i ad new locks,and alarms put on my windows by the polcie and light in my garden,my ex was very abusive plus i av kids,u must getb police, they can stop him, u must ring police or he wil carry on,it is hard ive binthru it,x
hi how are u, when my ex refused to leave i did call the police,liek u i took him bk,actually i lost count how many times i ended it with him,ur fella sounds very abusive,do u av children, in end i rang the polcie in the bathroom while ex downstairs,and i got a solicter,look at my thread on edge, its long tho lol, ive bin thru court for last year, hope ur ok, and u av bruises u msut riong the policex
Hi there, so the police know that you have been abused, you can contact them again and ask for help from their Domestic Violence unit.
Did you ring Womens Aid on the number that Gem gave you? They will be able to help you with this situation, if you don't want to be with him, you don't have to. You are living in fear and that is not OK.
Let us know what Womens Aid say.
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