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Morning all,
I posted on here the other day that my relationship was ending. Well l was told by my partner last night on the phone that it was clearly over!! We should have been getting married in 2 weeks and i was being lead to believe that this would be the case. Up until last week l was his world his life everything to him, now he says a "switch has gone off" and he isn't in love with me anymore!! He owns the house myself and my children live in (there from my 1st marriage) i work for him (he has a successful business). He has told me that l can stay here till i get a house of my own!!
I feel so numb l can't stop crying and l can't face the future at all. I don't feel that l will ever trust anybody again. I don't have any friends that l can talk to and the only family l have is my parents and sister. I feel so alone and confussed anout everything how can someone change so quickly with no explanation!!!!
Poor you. And it's you that you need to take care of! Put yourself first and get all the help and support that you can. There are lots of charities and agencies that can give you short term support. Your doctor would also be able to offer advice about counselling. You will need to be strong for your children, but remember that you matter in all of this so make sure you tell your parents and get some help. I wish ou the best of luck and my heart goes out to you x
I am so sorry that he has done this to you and the children. You are understandably in shock. If you haven't done so already, please speak to your family, they can support you as much as possible through this. Keep posting here too, so we can also be there for you.
Dear Sarahann77
What a shock for you and the children and at such at time when presumably you felt very safe and secure. No wonder you are feeling all over the place.
We often recommend calling the Samaritans when the tears won't stop falling, the people on the end of the phone are brilliant and can help you make some sense of things and hopefully help you get through the rest of the day.
Samaritans - 08457 90 90 90
We have some articles in our Looking After You section on How to recover from a broken heart and Will I ever trust anyone again? for when you are ready for some reading. However at this point perhaps you shouldn't worry about the future or think about trusting anyone else at the moment. Now is the time to be focussing on yourself, looking after yourself and being kind. Share what is going on with your family. How are the children doing?
hi sweetie
am sorry to hear about the break up of this relationship , ure only human so its only right that you feel so much hurt . just let it all out in order for a rose to grow and blossom beautifully it needs to be watered and then when it has grown lovely the sun shines on it and beautifies it more ...!
your best is yet to come don,t be sad ...u have your kids ure alive and healthy your gonna all have a wonderful future..some 1 who apprieciates u 4 u and will make u feel special don't give up on life love or ure bright future...and ure a great mom has well...
all the best 2 u and ure kids .....!
things can only get betta
xx
khadeejah, thats brilliant, thanks for that, beautifully written and shared.
no problem ...
a problem shared is multiplyed and resolved
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x
hi sarahann im so sorry tto hear this as happened to you . yes you will feel alone but you are not . i felt like that and at times still do but you are not . you have family that can help i have not got much family but i do have friends . i got to say this site has helped just knowing someone out here is listening to me and wanting to take the time to read what i have put . you need to stay strong for the children and i can say that that saying at times is harder doing as my ex left me in may for someone else and i still find it hard to believe what he has done , but someone posted links on mine and i looked at them and read them and i have found the points are helping. i know it will take time but you will get there x
How are you feeling sarahann77?
Shaz 5, glad it is helping, being on here, there really is lots of friendly support and Anna and I will always post info on anything we can think of that may help 
Hi sarahann77, how are you feeling now? is anything getting any easier for you?
Here to support you too.
Oh my gosh. That it so awful for you. I really am sorry.
Have you told your family what's going on? They will want to support you and your children through this, I'm sure. Please do let them know what's happening if you haven't yet.
I'm afraid that often, the questions we need to have answered, aren't answered.
Has he said anything about your job?