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Hello everyone, my ex partner's new gf hasbeen posting things online like how she wants to go end her life etc, shes also been posting things about her and her kids and she has never had any kids before, ive been told she ovbiously has issues and that she is a danger to my son, how do I go about tellin my ex about this so he doesnt think im making it up?
Hi a few ppl have told me she is a danger to my son, my hv, ive spoken to a few family support workers n they have said it also, his family have fallen out with him because he will not listen to any of us about puttin his son first, me n him did get on ok until I found out shes been puttin this stuff online n ive told him, he knows what she has been puttin online but shes told him shes copied and pasted what othet people have put on, but ive been told she must still have issues to copy and paste stuff like that and to also copy and paste stufg about her n her kids which she doesnt even have kids,
that does not sound so good, but it might be best, as Anna suggests, that someone else keeps telling him...as you say that he has fallen out with his family because he does not want to listen to putting his son first, it might be an option to let the family support workers talk with him, as they are the ones having said it to you. What about asking them ?
Good Idea skyflower to see if the family support worker can talk to him, sounds like he is believing what this new girlfriend is telling him, maybe he has not experienced anything that he considers odd behaviour coming from her, so having a professional explain the concerns might make him take notice.
Has his contact been court ordered or is it just an arrangement between you and him?
He doesnt even see my son atm, she wont let him and me and his family have told him he needs to make a decision either his sons safety or her n it looks like hes chosen her :(
Hi natz1991, what a shame to read that your ex has chosen his girlfriend over his son.
Unfortunately there is little you can do with this, except keep communication if and when he wants it.
How old is your boy? Does he ask after his dad?
My son is two years old, he is constantly askin for his daddy he us a daddya boy
Sorry to hear that he is choosing this new girlfriend over your son, as Anna has said there is little that you can do about it, it is his choice to make.
Would you be able to do phone contact or skype? that way your son has some contact rather than none.
No he wont even do that
Such a shame and a position that many of us have had to come to terms with. Do you have brothers, good male friends or your own father/uncles that your son can spend time with?
Ive got a brother but he has his own daughter he has to spend time with when he is not workin
That can be hard, but hopefully he will be around for special occasions ie birthdays and Christmas time.
How old is your son natz1991?
My son is only two
Awww I bet he is a little sweetie 
I was going to suggest that he join an activity like Scouts or Martial Arts, but I think he is too young for that!
What does he like to play with?
Yeah just a bit too young for that, im currently waiting for a date to come through for him to start at a playschool just until he gets his place at nursery
Is the play school one of those that you stay at with them? i used to go to several of those when mine were little! Coincidentially my son recently met up with a boy at college that he used to play with at play group 15 years ago.
Na its a bit like nursery I stay for the first day but thats it
Ah thats great you will have abit of time to yourself instead, do you plan to do anything?
Wont really have time to do much as ots only 3 hours a day, if I was to come home by time i get home will have about an hpir before needing to go wait for bus to go collect him again
Its a shame it is so far away, however you can still use those 3 hours to do whatever you wish (within reason!) what do you think you will you do with that time? How many days a week will it be?
I havent got a clue what I shall be doin it three days a week ive just had the fnecall to say he starts on 30th of this month just told him and hes got really excited :) xx
That sounds a pain being so far, is there anything that you could do near the play school, a gym, cafe where you could meet a friend for coffee or the library or the play school do they run any activities for parents?
Glad he is so excited about starting.
Hi natz1991 and welcome to One Space.
I am wondering who told you that your ex's new gf is a danger to your son. If you were told by a friend, then perhaps you could ask your friend to tell your ex?
Do you have a good relationship with his parents or siblings, perhaps a conversation with them might help?
Do you think your ex knows that she has issues, how well do you two get on?
Sorry so many questions, just wanting to get a fuller picture.