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Hi
I'm a single mum 28 years old with a happy 2 years old Boy. Lives in eccles would like new friends in the area or nearby.
Starting fresh new life in the new area with ma baby away from ma ex!
Hi SallyW
I'm a stay at home mum looking after ma son. Been made redundant from am best job ever.also been separated since April. Going through court nearly all over I'm just glad I'm now safe and ma son will be safe with me too.
I loves shopping, taking ma son out for the day anywhere, parks, play barn indoors.
My son is very out going like me 2 love to he going walking & sitting in his buggy talking about everything's we see around us.
Hi SHM28, welcome to One Space from me too!
It sounds as though you have been through some difficult times recently, but coming out of the other side now 
good for you!
Hopefully other people will be online to say hello at some point. What was the job you were doing?
Wasn't easy been a hard few month & nearly coming 2 the end of it. Can finally carry on with ma life without worrying. I'm very pleased and happy with ma son coming out of his shell very much. He's happy & I'm happy too xx
Used to be a garden for council loves gardening very much x
Oooh an outdoor job, what a shame about the redundancy. Would you consider going self employed and helping out in other people's gardens?
Lovely to read that your son has come out of his shell and that you are happy too, the separation was obviously the best thing for you both
Hello all,
I'm new here, and I'm so glad to have found this site! I live in Canada, but am a British ex-pat. After many years of emotional and psychological abuse, I called time on my marriage in February. I've been a single Mum of two amazing teens since April. The term "high-conflict" best describes my separation/divorce, but I try to deal/cope one day at a time. I'm grateful for your courses so I can do things at my own pace.
Best to all the community
We are glad that you have found us too saracdowns, well done you for finally getting out of that relationship, break ups are never easy at the best of times, it sounds like your still having to deal with his abusive behaviour!
Dealing with it all a day at a time as you are doing is a great way forward, how are your children coping with it all? do you have family or friends to support you?
Hello Sally,
The ways my children cope are different. My beautiful daughter (going on 17) took some of the brunt of abuse, being called stupid, crazy good-for-nothing etc. We talk a lot about how she's dealing, so I really treasure those moments. They keep me going. My son (13 years old) is coping, but is still somewhat under his father's spell (i.e. manipulative tactics). The progress is slower, but I'm learning to make time for talks and clarifying things. Thank goodness his Dad only has visitation once a fortnight. The more he presses for joint custody, the more I bristle. There is no way I can put my son out there to be used and exploited.
On the support front, my family is extremely supportive. I'm making new friends that didn't belong to my "previous life", so am in the process of coming out of my shell into the world.
All the best from Canada!
Sounds like your doing a fab job of supporting your children through this, glad you have people around to support your too, it can be tough dealing with the after effects of your ex's abusive behaviour.
Have you taken a look at the Freedom Programme it is a course for women that have suffered from domestic abuse.
You may also like to take a look at this guidance from our domestic abuse experts about life after domestic abuse
Whats it like in Canada?
My children were both the reason I stayed and the reason I stopped the insanity. It's funny how emotional abuse is such an invisible disease. From the outisde, everything looks picture perfect but inside the home it's a whole other story. Once I decided that my children and I deserved better, I never turned back.
Yes, in fact signing up to the Freedom Programme was the first thing I did on the site.
I've been reading up on just about everything I can get my hands on from all over the world. My Canadian experience is that the support systems are in place, but the collective mentality isn't there yet. For example, my ex stalked me prior to and after I started the divorce proceedings. In 2 short months he swamped me with hundreds of text messages, which I dutifully kept, thinking that it would help my case with the police/crown prosecutor. No such luck, mainly because police officers still don't apply anti-stalking laws as they should. We do have some great women's shelters who helped me better understand the cycle of abuse, so it's not all bad.
Thanks again for the virtual discussion! It's so very helpful and constructive.
That's a shame about the police not enforcing as they should, i know we have had similair feedback here, you can feel really let down by a service that is supposed help to keep you safe, it takes a lot to get the courage up to go to them in the first place.
Your right about how it can look from the outside though someone who knows what they are looking for can pick up the signs, close friends and family often notice that something is not quite right too.
Hi SingleHotMomma28 and welcome along to One Space
How about you tell us abit more about yourself and your little boy, are you recently separated? any hobbies?
Look forward to getting to know you on here.