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seriouslyannoyed

I want another baby... Ok I know it seems ridiculous as I have 2 kids that I adore but there is a tiny part of me that craves another. Not a tiny part actually it's eating me up. I'm only 31 but the chances of me meeting someone are slim and I don't think it'll ever happen for me but I can't still thinking about it. Will counselling help? Does this feeling every go away?

Posted on: March 18, 2014 - 6:36am

Sally W

Parenting specialist

Hi seriouslyannoyed,

I'm not sure if counselling would help for this kind of thing, but i don't see why it could'nt. Sorry thats probably a bit of a none answer.

I do get what you are saying though, as i have times when i get broody too, the reality for me though is that i can't have anymore, thankfully i have already been blessed with 4 children and that is what i focus on.

Hopefully someone else will come along soon with some words of wisdom.

Posted on: March 18, 2014 - 8:13am

Louise

Parenting specialist

Hello SA

You could have a few sessions with a counsellor if you would like to, but this could be something you could do some work on alone, too. The urge for a child is a very strong one and I know it can take over your headspace in a very big way. What I would like to suggest to you is to dig a bit deeper and have a look at the reasons you may feel this. I can't put words in your mouth but maybe you could consider my thoughts?

You have children and now you are separated. Does this mean that part of your life is over, does it feel as if that's the case if you don't have another? Logically, at 31, you still have time on your side for having another child in the future, even if you do not enter into a committed relationship. At the moment, it sounds as if you think the choice has been taken away (to have or not have another child) and that's what's at the root of things. Sit with your feelings, they are quite natural, and if you still feel as strongly in a year or two then that is time to consider the practical options. Hope you don't mind me being as direct as that, it is normal to feel as you are feeling and I am just suggesting you acknowledge it to yourself and the real reasons underneath it.

Posted on: March 22, 2014 - 9:10am