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Hi Bella, hope you can stay warm as you are out and about, the wind was very cooooooold today when I went to the shops, that sounds sad about your friend, sorry to hear that, did you have an argument?
Hi trying hard, thanks for explaining that, I didn't think your boy was old enough for college. Quite a lot of parents have expressed what you are saying, regretting thje dad or mum they chose for their children. but HEY, I reckon our children are pretty lucky cos THEY HAVE US!
Hope everyone is having a peaceful evening.
don't want to drag this thread down but feel like i have hit rock bottom - not sure how i can pull myself back up - tried to phone breathing space - they are all busy :-(
Hi LRH
I am glad to hear from you as you havent been on for a couple of days. I am not usually on here in the evening but there has been something wrong with my computer.
If you need to speak to someone tonight, phone The Samaritans on
08457 90 90 90
They are there for all sorts of problems and have helped me in the past. Once I just cried down the phone, and that was Ok by them too.
Sending you a hug (((( )))) and do pick up that phone and contact them.
thanks
Hope things are feeling a bit less traumatic for you this morning LRH
Good morning all. lrh, I do hope you're okay. Sorry to hear you're feeling so low, but keep posting, you're not dragging the thread down, so please don't feel that way. We're here to help support you, and be a listening ear. Take care of yourself.
Hopeful, well done on the result. That was a brilliant mark.
trying hard, glad the kid's dad turned up. I don't understand either how they can leave the chlldren waiting. It's not your fault the fathers have turned out this way, you didn't know beforehand, so you couldn't possibly have known. Don't beat yourself up over it.
Bella, hope your week goes okay. Sorry to hear about your friend too. Any chance of patching it up?
Sparkling, how are you feeling? Hope the cold doesn't drag you down too much.
Hi Louise, hope the computer doesn't play you up today.
My evening last night was a bit of a disaster to be honest. Friday friend came, her son arrived earlier. Friend came here with her friend, that I do know, but wasn't expecting. Anyhow, C wanted us all to watch a DVD, but before that, we all had something to eat, us ladies were in the kitchen drinking and chatting. I stupidly told them that C and I had had an arguement in the week, then said he'd not had a good day at school. Friend then said that all single mums make excuses for their children when they've done something wrong!!! This turned into a huge debate. Anyway, C was waiting for the film, so we went in the living room, and before I really knew what was happening, the friend's friend started having a go at C, telling him to respect me, then my friend went at him too. I was butting in, telling them to leave him alone, with that C stormed over to the tv and turned it off. I didn't say a word, as I felt he was within his rights. Couldn't hear the film because of them, so what was the point in having tv on. Once he'd done that, my friend said to me 'you're his mother, and you should be telling him not to do that!!' I then told them both to come back into the kitchen, they obviously didn't wasn't to watch the DVD, whereas he did, and they'd spoilt it. Up we got, and I was accused of spoiling him, he had everything. I was horrified, and couldn't believe my friend was saying all of this to me. I got cross with her, and asked her why she thinks that just because C comes from a one parent family, he shouldn't have things that her son has! Her friend did stick up for me which I was thankful for. That subject was left, but an hour later, the boys kicked off. Her son dug his nails into C's arm, drawing blood and some skin off, so C slapped him across the face. OMG. Friend went into them, asking C what had happened, he explained that her son had just 'gone' for him, and with that, friend said, 'well, I gave the chance to explain yourself', up she got calling her son, and downstairs they went. Son was telling her to shut up etc, not sure what had happened there, but we didn't get a goodbye or anything! Her friend was left sitting in my kitchen, so I got her a cab. Wow, what a horrid evening, and I'm still in shock really I think. They do say don't they, that you speak the truth when you've had a drink, so I guess she really does think that C is spoilt, and he shouldn't have a DS, wii etc. Quite hurtful actually.
OMG hazeleyes. I am sorry the evening went to badly. What is her problem? She's said this before, hasn't she? Perhaps her bluff could be called and you can say yes I enjoy spoiling him, and now I'm working I can spoil him even more... Just to hear what she'd say. (sorry, I'm stirring!). How is C's arm?
Was in the living room with youngest all evening and all night. His asthma was really bad, and I was at the point of going to out of hours. He slept on the settee, and the coughing did ease after a good dose of ventolin. I was going to enjoy my cold, but not had time 
lrh, I'm sorry that things are so hard. I do hope that somehow today will be a better day.
You've got an awful workload there hopeful. Hope you're getting on ok.
I hope everyone is ok otherwise and having a peaceful weekend.
Hello Sparkling. How is J this morning? Would it help his cough if he was in a steamed bathroom or something? I know he has asthma, but wondered if the steam, as well as the ventolin would help.
Yes, she has said this before, and I might try your suggestion. She has often said that C is extremely lucky to have a trampoline, and I keep telling her that it was given to me, unlike her sons. His was brand new, so why is C lucky??? Maybe I'm missing something here. Her son can stick his fingers up to her, tell her to shut up, and nothing is said, and yet, if C answers me back in front of her, she really goes to town on him! Last year I started giving C £2 pocket money for doing jobs around the flat. He earns the money, some weeks it is less, depending on my situation of course. She said he SHOULD be earning his pocket money, and yet her son, one year younger than C gets £5 a week for doing absolutely zilch. I wouldn't call C spoilt at all. Sometimes her comments really do get to me, and other times I can brush them aside, but last night, well.......
Forgot to tell you all, I was ONE number away from winning £7000 on the lottery. C had chosen the numbers, (because he's spoilt, hehe). He normally goes for either 5 (date he was born) or 9 (his age). Last night, he chose 9, and it came out as 5. Cannot believe our luck Who needs money eh 
Wow Hazel, hard luck! You could have paid my student loan off! 
Awwwwwwww! How lovely would that have been 
Wouldn't it just. Then I really would have spoilt C
It's been a funny sort of day. Not done anything except the dreaded ironing of course, so just lazing around really. C is having a soak in the bath, and is incredibly quiet in there (makes a change). I'm not hungry at all, but I'm doing jacket potato for little man with his favourite chargrill chicken. I'll do myself some pitta bread or something. Both need to an early night, as it was midnight before we got to bed. Hoping on 7ish tonight, if I'm really lucky. Really looking forward to work, but all week the children will be doing fractions, and we all know how much I love that (not, hehe). C and I have been talking about secondary schools, and I've looked on the internet for another school, which is a bus ride away, but I think is better. I know it's early days, but trying to steer him into my way of thinking lol. The school that is closest has really impressed him, as it has a common room, 'just like Harry Potter'. Uhmmm, back to steering him into my way of thinking...........
Hello everybody
Nabster, you have got your fimger on the financial pulse!!!
Sparkling, poor J, hope he is better today, asthma is a very under estimated thing. Do the doctors think it will get easier as he gets older?
Hazleyes yes I remember friend saying that before about C being spoilt,,,,,it is almost as if she expects that because you are a single parent he has to wear an Oliver Twist outfit and get a little Xmas stocking with a shiny new penny in as his annual treat......sorry, got carried away there 
Well you can bet your bottom dollar that if someone criticises someone else then there is some jealousy involved somewhere, that's all I can say. You work very hard so don't let anyone put you down
My computer is kaput so I am going to install the laptop downstairs. Tomorrow it is the funeral of friend's sister so I am going along to that, to give some support. Another of the sisters lives over the road from the crem so there is some talk of everyone walking across in a procession, my friend is helping to carry the coffin. I hope he does not put his back out as he is almost 60.
Hope you will all have a decent evening
Thankyou Louise
I hope the funeral goes as well as it can do. Yes, your friend will have to be very careful in carrying the coffin. Such a sad sad time. Do you know what is wrong with the computer? You're pretty smart on those sort of things, so maybe you could have a tinkle and see if you can fix it perhaps. Or your son? Is he any good on this sort of thing?
A difficult day tomorrow Louise. I'll be thinking of you.
Hi,
hazeleyes, just ignore the "friend", she may be quietly jealous as her child(ren) are not as well behaved as yours. You know deep down if your child is spoiled. You are the only one to answer to you, we all know you are a fab mum.
Single parents often get picked out. Years ago i took my children to a hol camp as the local single parent club had got a deal (wasnt really a deal after we worked it out), anyway, we had a welcome meeting and we were asked to keep our kids quiet when leaving the club house as some complaints were being heard by the residents of other caravans! we were FURIOUS. Does that mean that only children of SINGLE PARENTS make a noise? children of nuclear families dont giggle or laugh or shout then? We never went to any more club meetings or trips. (it works out that it wasnt even any of us as we hadnt even ARRIVED on that night!!).
Rant over.
Take care all, ice due. Im driving tom and for the rest of the week..carefully!
Hi everyone, wishing you a good day today and I will check in later
I think I've been so lucky with how I have been treated - although I have sort of isolated myself (mainly due to the wonky leg thing). The Git never came anywhere with us anyway, so the only difference there was, maybe, was me without a wedding ring...
Hope everyone has a good day tooday too.
Hello everyone, just checking in...Sorry you had a bad time the other day Hazeleyes...
Louise,it's good you are giving your support to your friend though.
Bella, how're things for you at the monet?
LRH, Hope you don't feel as bad as the other day too. We all are good listeners though.
Sparkling,Hope your youngest's asthma is getting easier.
Nabster,how're you feeling?
I had a lovely Sunday with friends, but doing nothing today. Still putting off form filling...but did manage to pay the Council Tax, fo some washing and go to the Tip this morning.
Mt daughter was very good yesterday too...cleared the old bottles out the bathroom, and helped clear the Kitchen too. So am making the most of that as it might not happen again for a .........year lol!
Hugs to everyone else too I might've missed mentioning...
Ah, Hazeleyes, looks like I've got more slapping to do, huh?! (sorry Louise!)
I feel almost guilty - I've signed in to show off.... We gave our group presentation on MS today and the lecturer said it was outstanding and one of the best he's seen.... Official marks will be out in a couple of weeks....
Seeing that all the big assignments are out of the way now, I can log on a bit more often! Tomorrow I'm going to see the marker of the essay I messed up while No3 son was being kicked out of school... From Monday I'm on placement again, but 9 - 5 or 8 - 4, so it'll be a bit easier...
LRH - sending you lots of hugs xxx Hope you find out of your hole soon! xxx
To everyone else: hope you're having the best possible day! x
Welldone Hopeful!
I have got stuff in order to look at with the next assignment
Glad you had a good Sunday Mich. Youngest is as white as a sheet and wheezing for North Wales now rather than Wales, thank you...
Hope Monday is so far so good for everyone.
Need to scrape some money together to get flowers for FiL. Six years since ex-BiL died... Then a Scout meeting.
Ooh yes well done Hopeful, that is fantastic news, you should be very proud of yourself!!!
Hi sparkling your in laws will love the flowers.
Mich you have done wonders.I will have to invite you round, heh heh.
How are you feeling LRH?
Funeral went as well as these things can go. Friend very tired after not sleeping in the run up to it. At least there was no nastiness, as feared by friend. I am exhausted though!! Day off tomorrow of course so will catch up with you Wednesday
Can anyone tell me why the link isn't working to ask the expert in the money section - or is it me?
things not great here - sorry to hear about your funeral Louise - hi to everyone else
Hi all. lrh, I just tried it, and not working for me either, I will try and get you the link up though. Sorry things aren't great for you, hope you're okay.
Louise, I'm sure you're shattered. Funerals always seem such long days don't they, even if they aren't relatives. Glad there was no nastiness, and that your friend is okay.
Well done Hopeful, that's brilliant news, and a boost for you too. Big pat on the back.
Sparkling, hope J is better tomorrow.
Mich, your daughter is great. Think we could all borrow her some time?? hehe.
I have work in the morning, and then my dreaded pre-cancer appointment. Am taking C with me, as I don't have anyone that can pick him up. He'll be fine though with a book or a DS. I've had a lovely day at school, kids were on great form, and I took a group of not very good English speaking children out of the class, and we read the play Jack and the Beanstalk. They loved it. Things are finally slotting into place there for me I think
I'm glad the funeral was peaceful Louise. I hope you are able to have a quiet day off tomorrow.
They loved the flowers.
Will be thinking of you tomorrow hazeleyes, and so glad you had a good day at school.
Link to the money expert lrh here I always go onto other posts, find the link that way and then access it from there. Not sure why we can't do it the normal way though.
Glad they liked the flowers Sparkling. I'm sure they were gorgeous, (the flowers, not the inlaws hehe). Thankyou for your thoughts too. Hopefully post tomorrow to say all was well, no op needed. Fingers crossed eh.
xxx
morning everyone - thanks hazeleyes and good luck with your appointment - still struggling myself but will keep popping in - seeking advice from the experts and then maybe i will feel strong enough to post - my work situation is not resolved - personnel are looking into a couple of options for me - just wish they would hurry up!
have a good day everyone x
Morning all, Hope your appointment goes well for you Hazeleyes xx
Well done Hopeful its great when you hear good feedback on your hard work,
Im still having bad luck, suspension spring snapped on the car yesterday so have to find money to pay out for that, plus its my daughters 7th birthday tomorrow and have already booked a party for her wish i hadnt now as i have to pay for car to be fixed. Cant go to college as no car and by the time i drop the kids off to school il be too late by bus. Why is money the root of our worry!!!!
Bad day for me today too. Had a massive argument with my daughter, and now she is threatening to live with her dad, and is seeing him tonight! Great!
Hi, Mich- my older children DID leave home when younger and then refused to speak to me. However years later they all came back and we never spoke about it. Yours may just be lashing out verbally but may not carry out the threat. my youngest may be leaving soon. funnily enough he asked me yesterday when he had to leave. i said he didnt HAVE to leave at all but i expect he will be ready as the others were at a certain age. ive told him i would like him to stay longer if he wanted to but if he wants to go then i wouldnt stop him. His dad and thai bride are getting wed very soon so i think he is attempting to live with them. im waiting for the "talk" as he is seeing them either this weekend or next one. On the positive side, i will only have to apply for a one bed flat or bedsit from the council when i sell this enormous building.
Hope all well and look out for the blooming snow. its threatening to come. drat, i hate snow.
Hi everyone!
hazeleyes, great to read that you feel like part of the team at school now, thats brilliant, it goes to show that it does happen eventually. Sending you best wishes for this afternoon, let us know how it goes, keep strong, we will be thinking of you.
hopeful, you must be pleased as punch about your brilliant feedback regarding your presentation, well done you! Outstanding eh? Fabulous, it makes it all worthwhile doesn't it. Please feel free to show off all you like
littleredhen, sorry that the link wasn't working, but thank you for pointing it out, I have now fixed this, (thank you to hazeleyes for finding the link for you, star for you! ). Do keep popping in LRH, it sounds as though you could do with some friendly banter and chat. This is a tough time, but it will pass, is there something nice you could do for yourself today?
trying hard, I find that cars and money are the bane of my life at the moment! You will provide a lovely birthday for your daughter and you know that is so important, will it only be today that you cant go to college?
Mich, it is soooo horrible arguing with our teenage daughters. I feel for you. I had one of those at the weekend, I worried about her for hours after she had gone out. Then text her asking her to let me know she was all right and I got a very joyous text back, typical!
Your daughter, if like mine, has been supporting you loads through this difficult period and needs to let off steam and be angry. It is probably only an empty threat saying she will go and live with her dad, she just wants to see you strong and in control. Is she at home today?
Thanks guys...your support is very much appreciated...she is home at the moment but seeing him later..
I apologised to her for arguing with her,but explained I'm not a robot and it might happen again, but in five months that wasn't bad, but told her that I won't tolerate her rudeness to me. I tried to discuss things with her but she could only see her point of view, and said I didn't work much and didn't clean the house or do anything, and that she would stay here until he got his flat and she could move in with him, as she couldn't put up with me... ( sounded like she'd been possessed by her father), so I said if she really felt that way, then maybe she should go and live with him if she felt she would be better off, but I would not put up with that behaviour from her, or those threats.
I feel awful, but at the end of the day it's her decision...and I am not going to beg her to stay.
We'll see how it goes.
Mich,
im thinking of you, as im sure we all are.
Hugs..x
Thanks Bella...Things a bit better...she was getting very stressed about something, and I explained that's how I had felt yesterday...
It's so hard though isn't it ?...
How's everyone else's evening going?
Hello all. Anna, thankyou for the star I've now put myself to the top of the class.
lrh, sorry you're feeling so down, but do keep posting, and hopefully between all of us, we can offer you the support that you're needing right now.
Mich, sorry you and daughter have had a big row. You're right though (i think) not to beg her to stay. Like you say it's her decision at the end of the day, but I'm sure it'll all blow over soon.
Bella, your son is only 12 isn't he?
trying hard, I hope your daughter has a wonderful birthday party tomorrow, but again, sorry you're also feeling the pinch.
How's J Sparkling? Hoping he's much better.
Hopeful, how's your day been?
Hope you enjoyed your day off Louise.
Well, my day hasn't been great either. C's teacher spoke to me first thing about what happened last week with the boy. He's denied everything despite witnesses! Teacher was expecting the mum to go in yesterday as I'd been in the assembly last Friday, but she then said that she'd seen that I'd made no eye contact with the child!!! My god, I am being ruddy watched. Okay we could argue that it's also to protect me, but it shouldn't be like this. The child or the mother has said that he is scared of me. Why for god sake? I'm fed up now with the fact I have to be careful of where I go in the school, not that I would come into contact really with him. Teacher also pointed out that she herself is normally where he is, apart from the playground. Left school at 12 with C. Hospital was awful. I need an op, but I think the thing that has really shaken me is, the oncologist saw the pics that were taken today, and he said an op should have been done last year. Had I not cancelled my appointment, I would never have been discharged, but then again, the oncologist should have looked at the pics taken last year!! I was told I should have the op between 4-6 weeks. This is really going to go down well at school isn't it?? Only just started, and nothing is going right, but on the plus side, I love working with the children.
I'm glad you're loving working with the children, and that gives something to focus on.
The news you've had is shocking, and I really don't know what to say here, other than I'm here for you.
Personally, I think if you tell the Head how you're going to deal with this child as nothing you do will be acceptable, then they know what's going on. Or they can suggest ways of dealing with the boy. As for being off... Do you know how long you'll be off for? Can it be done to fit in with half term? (as in Thurs or Friday before the week off...)
Loads of love and hugs hazeleyes.
xxxxxxx
Awww thankyou Sparkling. I can't really request a date for the op. Our week off is only two weeks from Friday isn't it, so that's pushing my luck a bit with the date. Going from previous ones, I will be sore and not able to walk properly (ouch) for a few days. Sitting down at school would definately be out!!! If it was done on the Wednesday, then at least that's nearer the weekend. Anyhow, I shall speak to whoever so they are aware, and I'm giving them lots of notice aren't I. Cannot help illness, ailments, operations etc can we? Only human after all!
Off to bed soon, my head is buzzing, not in a headache way, but in a worrying about all sort of things way.
Oh Hazeleyes, many many hugs for you tooxxxxx
Offload to us here if you need to...
xxxxxxx
Good morning to all lovely One Spacers.
Firstly happy birthday to your daughter, trying hard and hope the party goes well.
Mich hope things have settled down with your daughter, it is when they "explode" that we see that they are not quite the young adults they like to believe, and that there is still some toddler in there after all. They are also very changeable as Anna says. Thinking about the things she said (you don't work much, you don't do the housework) they come under the category of "I expect my mum to be Superwoman", which is what the child part of our teens secretly thinks. You could turn this on its head at some point (when things have calmed down) by saying something like "I have been thinking about the housework thing and you're right, we do need to look at it if things are not getting done. So here is a rota and we can decide who does what"
Hazeleyes, oh what a horrid, horrid shock about the op. Will you have a general or a local? that will affect the time you need off work. You say that it is simlar to an op you have had before? Will you have to be in hospital overnight? You can't help it that you need the op, what if you broke your leg? that is also something that could happen to a member of staff and is unexpected, tough for the school, same as any other employer. Do share your feelings with the One Space gang as everyone wishes you well.
Well, I have had a rest after the funeral, I went to see The Artist at the cinema yesterday, it is that one that is black and white and a silent film, very original, not spectacular but I am glad I went. Also met up with friends at the pub so good to catch up with all the news. Ready for action again today with all my work projects to catch up on.
I would also mention that I am here today and tomorrow and then from Friday I am off for a week, haven't been off work since September!! going away for the weekend to the coast then having some days off at home, some nice things booked like a pedicure and a lunch out, and some jobs looming ie spring clean the bedroom! But Anna and Sally will be here of course and please note I will be leaving my special glasses for them!
Hope everyone will have a good day
Hi all. Louise, that is great news that you're having a week off. Of course you'll be missed, but you need time to re-charge your batteries too. A trip to the coast for a few days sounds wonderful, the spring cleaning not!
The op will be under a general. The stay depends on how much they cut, pain etc. I've stayed in before for a few days, and also been allowed out in the evening, so it really all depends. Told the SENCO today, as I have to report to her, and she was brilliant. I've had the ops before Louise, each time it rears it's ugly head, the proceedure has to be repeated, which as there isn't an awful lot of flesh in that area anyway, makes the op worse each time, pain wise. Also the more they cut, then there is the likely case of a partial vulvectomy, and the worse scenario is a full vulvectomy. I do know of women that have had this, and god it freaks me out.
On parental side of things, C has really been acting up these past few weeks, to the point he has even hit and pushed me. First time I lost it big time with him, shouting, ranting etc. Second time, I stayed calm and told him to go in his room, took stuff away from him and left him with a book to read. This morning, walking to school, we'd argued before we even left the flat, he pushed me! I stopped him in his tracks, told him to apologise, and then went on to say that after school there was no tv etc etc. I was furious. Thing is I don't think he gives a monkey anymore when I remove his stuff. It's not for a mere half hour either, sometimes it can be for an hour or even over. Help!!!
Hi hazeleyes, I think with our children what they hate more than the removal of things is our disapproval or disappointment.
So perhaps this afternoon, once you get home remind him that there is no TV because of his behaviour, then leave him to his own devices and get on with something else.
If he wants to talk to you respond in short directive sentences, you can say that you are still feeling disappointed and ask him what he thinks of his behaviour. Be brief with him until you feel that he is remorseful. At this point you might even consider him do something more - lines? Short story on why children should respect their parents, the washing up?
I know it is hard, because we want things to blow over and we can get on with our evening, however, he needs to know right now, before he gets older that pushing, shoving or shouting at you is not going to wash.
I am sorry to read that you are having to go for another op, you don't need all this other pressure whilst trying to look after yourself, however dealing with C's behaviour is a priority, so it can get nipped in the bud now.
Before seeing him, give yourself a little pep talk. 'I am in control of my life and I approve of myself. I want my son to grow into a responsible caring young man and I am the person to deal with it'
Thankyou Anna. Reading all these things sound so simple don't they, and yet putting them into practice takes time, patience (a lot of, hehe), and lots of energy. Today I'm so tired too, which I also thought I was getting on top of!
Hi Hazeleyes
You maybe feel more tired because of thinking of the op. Oh that sounds horrid for you, not much I can say to console you, you know the drill. However, I do agree with Anna, good to keep on top of C's behaviour and I so understand that feeling of fury!!!! But rememeber the work you have done with the staying calm, that defnitely worked before.If imposing a sanction, rather than say "Right you naughty boy, that's no TV for you tonight!!!", try saying quietly but firmly "Oh dear, you need to face the consequences of your behaviour, that's no TV. Maybe tomnorrow you will behave better and will be able to watch TV"...and walk away, deaf to all pleas, tantrums, arguments etc,.
When he is in a calmer phase you could sit him down and say "C, I am concerned about some of your behavour lately, for example X and Y. Now we need to talk about what the consequences of your behaviour will be". Then discuss with him what those might be. If neccessary, write it down and blue tack it to a cupboard door, that is what I always did with my boy...perhaps you can say you will stick it on the inside of the cupboard to start with but if he behaves disrespectfully then the list will be put up for everyone to see (my boy was really ashamed of that, it was a good motvator)
Anyway...the main thing is get a good rest tonight if you can :-)
have a great holiday Louise
sending you a hug hazeleyes
and love to everyone here - will maybe catch up here another time - posting on my other thread so as not to drag all you lovely people down
xx
I hope you have a lovely holiday Louise.
I'm so sorry that C's not being as good as he could be. I hope things get a bit better with the advice given. I wish I knew what to say. I'm glad the SENCO was good. They think a lot of you there. My thoughts are very much with you.
Been in the living room today. I saw a friend in Asda yesterday and we stood and talked. I can hardly move today, so when I came home, daughter was here, so we watched one of the Narnia films. Someone from HA coming tomorrow morning.
My brother phoned. His mother-in-law died on Monday (he did text me). She was 92, and had been poorly since November. She died so suddenly at the end though, that they're quite shocked. We had a good chat though, which was nice.
Must get on with things tomorrow. And must catch up on here too. The computer is in the kitchen, so now I have a living room to sit in, not here so much. Hardly do a jigsaw any more.
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hello, just wanted to say im not avoiding this chat forum but im concentrating on the other subject as im sinking with problems im unable to sort, although i have tried.
best thoughts with everyone as always.
Morning all, thankyou for my daughters birthday wishes, shes having her party tomorrow with a few friends in a salon for a girlie pamper so they are looking forward so that hope it goes ok!!! Her dad called in with the presents i ordered for him didnt wrap them left them in cardboard boxes and not even a birthday card for her, hope he didnt expect me to put his name on my card, she didnt say anything at the time but this morning she was looking at her cards and then said daddy didnt send me a card why? I just told her youl have to ask him !!!
Hazeleyes im really sorry to hear that you need an op, thinking of you xx you are a strong woman to keep going the way you do well done, hope you look afterself and dont worry too much xxx
Enjoy your time off Louise it sounds like a nice break for you xx
Hope you are all well xxx
Hi Louise and Belle
Yes their dad did turn up eventually 11.35 kids were getting fed up of waiting for him, he was pale and his eyes were very blood shot so asked if he was ok well enough to take them out he just replied that he was fine and he'd had a drink the night before, so there we are things havent changed one bit!!
Louise my son has just turned 15 so still at school its just his dad have stopped paying csa as he has taken redundancy and not bothered with finding any more work, tried to ask him to pay me something towards his son and he said "I'll wait untill the csa catch up with me". So after the week ive had i just keep blaming myself for getting into this awful mess with two useless dads.
Yes Bella i agree with you if i only seen my kids once a week i too wouldnt be able to sleep as id be too excited, i think their dad sees it as something he has to do rather than something he wants to do which is sad. Hugs to you all xx