Hi
wow its taken me this long to find yourselfs. I am a 28yr old and became a single mum in August 2010. I have a nearly 13month old little girl who was and is my miricale child (i was told i could never have children).
I finally left her father in august last year after a year of problems, he stole money from me, was taking drugs and basically treated me like somthing he wiped off his shoes. So on the 28th August 2010 i asked him to leave MY house (rented but in my name) he refused to leave, like he had done countless times, so I told him if he didnt go then we would. He obviously didnt believe me as i had said this countless times before. but this time I did. I called my brother and asked him to come and get me, I was in L, and my brother lives in S. He came straight away and we left.
It was very difficult, as with how my pregnancy was and how traumatic the birth was and the relationship issues I had been put on anti deppressents and was diagnosed with ptsd at the same time, I hadnt slept more than an hour in a 24 hour period and was a mess, i couldnt even leave the house on my own. But 1 week after the move i was able to go for walks, 2 months later i was off all meds and sleeping at night.
We now live in a Studio Flat in C in S, I dont really see many people but I know if my brother is free he comes over and would be there for me if I need him to be. Its a tight space and yes its very hard, I dont have a job and M has had a delayed react to the split and moves, she was a child who slept 12 hours straight thru the night now im lucky if she will sleep 3, but we battle on.
sorry to rant just thought i would explain the FULL situation :)
thanks for your reply wayne,
we have been through a bit in our time but as you say I and M have more good days than bad now.
For me the next step is to get talking to other parents and make some friends as I dont have any here. so i will have to check chit chat out.
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Hello PandM
You are welcome to One Space, there is lots of support and information here. Please do join in with the threads. Sorry to hear that the move has been a hard one but it sounds as if it has been the right decision, even though your daughter is not sleeping well., have you talked to your Health Visitor about this as lack of sleep can be so wearing for you? It is six months since you left and I would have expected things to have settled down. Here is a helpful site about sleep, including some recommended reading.
if you want to come to Chit Chat, click here
Hi pamandmya
Well done for finding the site everyone here is really nice. Lots of chat goes on in the chit chat room all day and night.
Sounds like you have been through a lot and coming out the other side stronger.
I have a little 2 year old DD