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Hey guys,
Sorry been so long since i've been on here, got so much on my plate i dont know whether i'm coming or going. Where do i start. Lets start with the negative, My little boy's dad keeps cancelling on him nearly every other week. and when he does see him, he is never alone, so its never on a one to one basis, he is either with his parents or has his daughter with him. I dont believe this is fair on my son, as he does not get to see his dad and it does seem to get to him, and it is starting to show. He came home from his last visit, compaing himself to his half sister who is only a year old. my son i should point out is only 3.
On another point, whats been keeping me busy is my son has been diagnosed with a speech disordered called backing, so been busy learning about that and helping him through that while we wait for our appointment with a speech therapist. Can anyone give me any ideas on how to help him or when i can get resources on phonics from.
Any advice on anything above would be greatly appreciated. I have spoken to my lawyer and explained the situation and she has suggested mediation again.
Hi Louise,
Thanks for that suggestion. I was told to go over phonics with him as he has trouble and it is very clear troub with anything that begins with b at the moment, and until we see the speech therapist i will not be sure what other sounds or words he has toruble with. I know when he says the sentence "i have and itchy bum bum" it comes out as "i have an ouchy gum gum" the main give away being he usually does say it as he is walking around giving his bum a scratch.... He does get fustrated, like yours, he was delayed in talking and only started talking just a few weeks short of his third birthday and has since come on in bounds and leaps through group sessions now we get this.
Not to sound bad but its just as everything is starting to go better for us, someting knocks us back a couple of blocks again. espcially explaining this set back to his dad, it seems he know does try and blame me for it.
Hi spanish gothic, it sounds as though you have been working really heard to learn all about your sons speech and how you can help work with him to improve it.
Have you spoken with your ex about your son having quality time with him? Your ex might not see it as important and if that is the case as frustrating as it is, in the long run, it will be his loss and there is little you can do.
Regardless of whether your ex wants to blame you for what is currently going on with yoursons speech, you know that is not the case and I'm afraid you are going to have to rise above that. It is infuriating that he can be so childish to blame you for it, but do not beat yourself.
I always remember a film my mum loved when I was small and there was a bit about a little girl who was deaf, she learnt to say her b's, because her teacher would blow up a balloon and go 'buh, buh, buh against it, whilst it was on the little girls face' very sweet and she did learn!
Have you Googled for any exercises to help with your sons speech?
Hi Anna,
In regards to my ex, I have tried, my lawyer has tried and even the mediation team have tried to stipulate the importance of him and M having quality time together without anyone else as it does effect M's confidence and does not allow for that bond and trust between father and son to be built, but he is still ignoring it. Like you said, not much i can do to help it, in the long run it will be him that loses out not M.
As for speech therapy, am working with his nursery on the techinques they have been shown by speech therapy team, but was looking for ways to make it fun as he seems to clam up and get fustrated when we try and do the exercises. I will try the balloon trick as he does like balloons alot. I am not beating myself up about it, i'm used to him blaming me when he cant control the situation.
Well done spanish gothic, chin up and marching onwards!!
You know how this goes. It is hard, but it sounds as though you are doing all you can to do right by your son. Good luck with the speech therapy games. Perhaps you could also play the games with one of his favourite toys too?
Hello SG
Good to see you. Your speech therapist will be able to give you specific exercises to do at home. Backing is where sounds that should be made at the front of the mouth are made at the back so the sound T make come out as a hard K.
You may find that the sounds that it most affects are s,t,f,d,sh and ch. My youngest had a deformed ear canal and once this was blocked, he became very hearing impaired and his speech was delayed. One thing I did was to put my lips onto his cheek and let him "feel" the word I said. You could try this with nouns such as chair or teddy and see if he can copy you, make it into a game, he can put his lips on your cheek too? But this is just an "in the meantime" suggestion until you get to see the therapist