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We went to Gambados today as a treat. My daughter who is 3, saw a man that looks like her dad and followed him around everywhere. First I thought I am imagining things but after a while I could see that she did not want to leave the mans side. I ran over and very appologetically (as we do) explained that he lookes just like her dad. The embarresed man just smiled and said he wondered why this girl became so clingy. I was so upset, we left immediatly. Help what do I do? I am recently seperated with 2 children under the age of 4.
Yes every other weekend he stay with us but my little girl is really close to her dad. She is finding it really difficult.
Hi Lettie
They're so young, they are going to find it difficult for a while until they get used to new routines. It will be hard for you too.
Hopefully we can give you some virtual support along the way.
Thank you, I have been struggling. It was so difficult because I have no family in the UK and really needed a "break" to deal with my emotions but I made it.
It isn't an easy time, sadly. It's so hard when you're dealing with your own emotions and have to take care of your children's emotions too.
I realized, one good thing came out of this I think. It has made me a stronger person and I love my little darlings more and more each day.
Hi Lettie. It's the kids that make us get up each morning isn't it? They'll also be the ones to pull you through too. The little ones will adjust, they quickly adapt to new routines. I'm glad you've now become a stronger person. Please keep posting, we are all here for you.
It's a really lovely welcoming site, and even if someone hasn't gone through the same problem as you, we all rally to offer you our support. What are your plans for the weekend?
It is the darlings that keeps me going. My little girll always asks me "are you happy or sad", then her response afterwards is "smile mum". I use to be yhe life of the party and I hope I can be again SOONMy ex was supposed to came today but phoned saying his got a cold and will come tomorrow. I think I bake so cakes with my daughter and make a card for him for fathers day. Nothing really planned.
I'm sure you'll have lots of fun baking cakes and making a card with your daughter.
How is it for you when your ex comes to stay for the weekend? I mean are you comfortable with this arrangement?
Have a fun filled time baking the cakes.
The laughter will slowly creep back into your life. I used to play music very loudly and dance randomly around the kitchen. The children would laugh and sometimes join in. It would lift the mood! They were younger then though and tend to leave the room now! 
Hello Lettie
I have just been chatting to you on the Introduce Yourself post. Hope you have a good time baking with the little ones.
Hi Lettie. Welcome along. Awww, the poor little thing. Do the children still see their Dad?