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hi everyone, i don not know you can help or not.i am new person here.i have got a baby months and i have got some health problem sometimes i couldnt look after my baby what can i do for that please i need some help thanks
Hi gul, welcome along. Really sorry to hear you have health problems. If your baby is months old, you really should speak to the health visitor/doctor, as they will be able to help you. Do you have any other support from family and friends? Is your child's father involved at all? Please keep posting, and maybe tell us a bit more about yourself. Look forward to chatting. xx
thanks for your reply. i will speak to healy visitor but to be honest i already spoke my gp doctor said nothing. maybe i will get operation and i do not know what i gonna do my baby. now i have got pain and i can not go to hospital cause no one look after my baby and also i have terrible migraine.when my migraine get attacted i can not look after baby even feed.i am not speaking my family so not family support and all my friend live outside of london my baby father as well.
Hi gul, please do speak to your health visitor they can put you in touch with people who can help you with possibly temporary foster care for your baby whilst you are in hospital if you do have to have an operation. Do you take medication for your migraines?
I do hope that you will keep posting on here and let us know how you get on xxx
If you are finding it hard to look after your baby, ask your Health Visitor if there is Sure Start or Home Start in your area. Both these organisations can give you support with small children. If you need an operation and there is no-one to care for your baby, the authorities will find a foster home for your baby for a little while till you feel better. Please do get in touch with your Health visitor.
Hi gul, hope you managed to get in touch with the health visitor today. How is your migraine today? Really hope you're feeling better this morning. x
hi everyone, thanks for your heping all.i keep trying to contact health visitor but no answer and leave msj so just wait.my migraine fine today.i went to the hospital last night but didnt see the doctor cause my baby was crying came back home unfortunately.i just have groin pain which i have cyst.so bad but i have to stand for my baby.thanks again for your helpful.
Hi gul, it is so annoying when you are trying to contact health visitors and they are not there, however it is good that you have left a message and hopefully they will get back to you today or perhaps tomorrow.
I presume your health visitor already knows that you need to go into hospital and have no-one to look after the baby? If this is the case she will contact the local authorities and make a referral to the Childrens Services Department.
You say that your doctor said nothing when you spoke of this. When you see your health visitor, tell them everything, how you feel now, your concerns, the migraines and how you feel that sometimes you can't look after your baby. She is there to find you support.
Let us know when she rings you back, try and have a relaxing day today. If the pain becomes unbearable, call your local doctor out for a home visit.
Hi Gul,
From your writing, English is not your first language?
You said you saw a GP but they haven't helped - is it possible to get a translater to help speak with the GP? I find it hard sometimes to talk to them even in same language!
Do try and find a local children's Centre / Sure Start place - look online - when are you next seeing your health visiter? Find out when and where your next baby clinic is - this is a really good place to find out information as well as get help with baby and for you.
I am worried that communication maybe the biggest concern here though - do you know people locally that speak your native language?
Hi gul, how are you feeling tonight xxx
Hi gul. Did the Health Visitor return your phone call? I really hope you are feeling better today. Cysts can be very painful. Do you know when you will having the operation, or are you waiting for a date? Please keep posting to let us know how things are. Take care. xx
hi everyone, thanks for your care.i didnt speak to healty visitor but i gonna see this week and talk to her.
jane, you are right english is not my first language but doctors have said no need translater for me even hospital doctors and also i agree for that because if i have taken interpreter, have I can learn to speak english and help to my baby.it is some times diffucult but i have to.
my hospital operation time is after two months but I am not sure get this operation after taken urgent delivery.but still discuss to doctors
before writing to here i was feelinf so bad.alone and worried woman whit my baby.but i know you are there and thanks for everone for everying ***
Hi gul
so glad to hear that you are going to see your health visitor, tell her everything all your worries, about needing the operation and needing just a little help with your banys care whilst you are in hospital.
Everyone is here for you, please let us know how you get on xxx
Hi gul
It is good to hear from you. Hope the meeting with the Health Visitor goes well, look after yourself
Hi gul, I think if you are happy not to have an interpreter, that's fine, however do not feel bullied into it, if you think that you are not being heard, then it might be worth insisting on it.
You mention that you need to speak English for your baby. Research has shown that it is important for the mother/baby bond that you speak your own language, as you can express yourself more fully.
Your child will learn English probably at the same time anyway as they will grow up hearing it and once they are in school it will be a breeze for them. 
Where are you learning English? Do you go to ESOL?
Hi Anna, you are right on your writing just one short thing.I am speaking with my baby my own language.i mean i need to speak english with anyone who outside so if i use interpreter, i can not do practise and forgeting some word.of course some times misunderstood to people when is happened feel so bad.
i have got NVQ 2 qualifications from conel college. i passed all my exam with english class 5 years ago. i am not to active person to be honest so not improve my english.
if you were me , what would you do about this subject.
Hi gul,
It is up to you if you want to learn more, there is a local provider of free/low-cost English tuition that you may like to contact. Looking at their website, I think the new courses will start in September:
Enfield Community Learning Service
1st Floor Marsh House
500 Montagu Road
Edmonton, N9 0UR
tel: 020 8379 3277 fax: 020 8379 5095
enfieldcommunity.learning@enfield.gov.uk
www.enfieldacl.org.uk
Hi gul
If I were you, I would try and get out more! I know it is easy for me to say, but it is important that you meet new people, for you and your baby.
I am not sure where you live but I have looked in areas near Conel College.
I have just spoken to a woman at Enfield Womens Centre 0208 8443 1902, they have coffee mornings and exercise classes where you can take your baby.
The woman said you could call her and find out more. Do you live near there?
Also what is your native language??
gul, that sounds really good... Having some company can make such a difference.
Loads of hugs for you.
hi everyone,
thank you all for your help.i spoke a health visitor, my baby's one is away, she gave me some adress to speak and said go to social service take advice also i will talk to the hospital doctor, may be they can arrange someone to help in that time.but i am still thing about that operation.
Anna i have taken that phone, i will call them. i am living edmonton and my first language is turkish.i didnt finish level 3 in college, i was a lots of paper work and my magrine was getting worst .so i wolud love to join a group.
now i know i am not alone, thanks
So glad you've spoken to the Health Visitor gul. I'm sure you will feel better knowing that there things in place if need be.
Well done, gul, I know it is hard but you can make such a difference to your life if you reach out to these contacts
Hi gul
I am glad that you have managed to speak to one health visitor, hopefully your usual one can support you with contacting the social services or your doctor.
I am currently trying to find you more local support. I heard of the Turkish Womens Support Group, however their phone number is no longer available, but I will not give up!
You aren't alone, we are right here for you. How is your baby today?
Hi gul, how are you? xxx
hi my new family,
i was thinking i am groving up with my baby. the life is only belong to me before the baby but now do nothing even looking at the mirror.my baby is sick, she has first teeth pain since 4 months and she got some virus now.i call the ambulance monday as my baby got 3 times vomit.when i saw people came partner,friend, relative round the hospital i was so jealous.i was alone only me and holded my sweet 5 hours on mmy arm.i just keep saying myself i am not only the single mum.i am not first or last alone mum in the world.
Awwwwh gul, its awful when your baby is poorly isnt it, do hope she is a lot better soon. How are you, are you going to have the operation?
You are certainly not the only single mum but it does sometimes feel that way when you dont feel very well.
Please do stay with one space, everyone here will support you, I thought it was lovely how you started your post and yes it is like one great big happy family on here xxx
Oh gul
That must have been so scary for you when your baby was ill. I know what you mean about everyone else seems to have someone. Your baby is very lucky because they have YOU.
Anna and I have been digging around to see if there is any support for Turkish women in your area. A colleague of mine has a contact up here in the north of England and we have asked her to supply contact details of any London groups.
How is everything else going for you at the moment? It sounds as if you are very busy with the baby. It is very hard work when they are little. Do try and get a bit of time when your baby sleeps, to have a nice bath or lien to some music.
I hope your daughter is feeling better.
It is horrid when they're ill, and so frightening when they're little.
Hello gul. How is your baby now? Did she have a bug or something, or was it something to do with her teething? The poor thing. Hope she is ok. How are you doing? When you're on your own, and a child is ill, it can be scary, especially through the night, when it's extremely quiet. I find it always seems worse at night. You're doing great, so hang in there. Take care. xx
Aw Gul,
It sounds so sweet to think of you giving and sharing love and support between you and your baby. How old is she? I'm not sure if you've said?
You will be ok. Your life with your child as they grow will be beautiful, and having no one else to worry about will bring with it its own blessings.
I hope you find some local things to do with your baby, I like activity based things around music best as it never leaves us sitting in a corner thinking we might as well be at home! :)
Hello gul
Am still waiting for my contact to get back to me with any Turkish groups, I have chased her up. How are you doing?
Hi gul welcome to one space.
Do you have any family support?
Can you talk to your health visitor about this?
Others will be along to give advice and support to you.