Hi I am new to this site and I can not believe I have just found it I wish I had known about years ago I know it would have helped me alot through difficult times. I have been divorced from my vile violet ex for nearly nine years and I am now happily married to my best friend of seven years (so believe me there is always a light at the end of the tunnel) however, my ex is still been a complete pig when it comes to the children. I have three children 18 12 and 8 my eighteen year old is my ex's from his previous relationship, but I have brought her up as my own since she was three. She has no contact with her biological mother for fifteen years and she has no contact with her father for over a year now. The reason is he took me to court last year because I would not agree to the twelve dates he sent me in January to see the kids. Caffcass got involved and interviewed all the kids which devastated me and them and he has lost overnight contact because of the caffcass report to the court. My eldest was so upset she has taken it upon herself to stop seeing him the other two I encourage all the time although they are reluctant to go. My problem now is he is not paying the correct amount of maintenance which was made in a court order I have tried to sort it amicably but he is refusing to pay the correct amount because he said his business is not doing very well. However, after some research etc I know it is. He managed to fiddle his books throughout the divorce and me and the kids lost everything and I know if I went back to court he would do it again. Does anyone have any ideas how i can sort this I just want to get on with my new life and put the past behind me.
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Hi Louise
Thank you for your response I thought as much, like I said I was hoping to sort it between us but to no avail. Looks like another trip to the solicitor
Thanks again
Hello all,
I have been separated for four years and devorced for two. My ex has paid maintenance on and off for the past two years however stopped paying last March due to a new wife and new baby supposedly. I have 9 year old twins. As I was working I did not argue with him to pay his maintenance as I would prefer to go without but now I have not been working for 5 months and money is tight. He has a cash business and has never declared his correct earnings. Is it worth my while getting the CSA involved to try to get some maintenance from him in the official process. Also when I got devorced my solicitor said that I could not mention child maintenance as an element to be written into my order so I am surprised that somebody else managed to get that signed in a court. Could I have your comments on whether the CSA are effective with someone who runs their own cash business and how many of you got child maintenance agreement signed in court. Many thanks and good luck to everyone on here.
Hi Zeena and Welcome along to One Space,
All cases are different so it would depend on your circumstances as to why you are in court as to what they will deal with at that time.
You can message our CSA Expert with your question as to if it would be worthwhile you going through the CSA for maintenance.
I'm sure others will be along soon to share their experiences.
Hello PT and welcome along
The maintenance is detailed in a court order and so to enforce that order you need to return to court. You will need to see a solicitor to do this. The payment of maintenance and having contact with the children are two separate matters so he is still liable for what the order says.